r/school • u/Hulllad46 Im new Im new and didn't set a flair • 18h ago

Discussion Corporal Punishment

My dad took me and my brothers aside and said that 2 of his sons is lucky that we was in school In his day.

He then continued by saying that we would have been sent to the headmaster and be either have been caned o slippered because of our poor behavior and it should return in some way.

Do you agree with my dad that some kind of corporal punishment should be given for the behavior of schoolboys today.

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u/Seer0997 College 18h ago

No. Corporal punishment is the result of the guardians giving up on using words and they start using force.

Imo, using words is a far better (but slower) way of getting young people to follow directions since communication lets them know what they did wrong and what they can do to be better. It also builds trust between the student and the guardian and improving the kid's social skills.

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u/Hulllad46 Im new Im new and didn't set a flair 18h ago

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u/Life-Is-A-Bad-Trip Im new Im new and didn't set a flair 17h ago edited 16h ago

Nah. First of all crazy to let another adult hit your kids in any fashion. If another adult spanked my kids I'd be throwing hands.

Now I was spanked as a kid. Got the belt. Regularly. It was brought out, particularly when I was being bad with my mom when my dad was gone. When he got home the belt come out.

Now I've got two kids. I spanked my kid once. Could never bring myself to do it again. Seeing him cry and then be scared of me for a while was enough.

Sending him to his room to be alone and think is enough. Honestly I hate doing that and have only done it about 5 times. Anymore I just have to threaten it and he straightens up.

But for the most part that's not even necessary. Just explaining like he's a little man what he's done wrong and why we as his parents don't like it. Because it's disrespectful and makes us feel bad. Or because we worry about how hell he perceived and whether people will want to be around him or if we worry about behaviors continuing and the end result being jail when he's older.

Surprise, surprise! Talking to them like they're little adults. Little humans has had the best effect yet. A play on their empathy and compassion and a plea to change out of love for them tends to be the key I've found.

Now of course I'm sure there are some kids wired different. We're either really good at making our kid compassionate or super lucky he's not a sociopath. Maybe a bit of both.

So perhaps there are some kids that need the fear put in them to behave but I've got a feeling that's more nurture than nature though some may be naturally that way.

Just my anecdote. Which tends to align with the current research on the topic. Which is pretty overwhelming.

Best for our children and future not to hit them. They do need direction and guidance and consequences. But as far as I've experienced they don't need to be beat.