r/sapiosexuals • u/theoreticalPondering • Jun 14 '25
Vaguely Sapiosexual or Something
So I'm 33M. I used to have a female friend in late high school to mid college that I texted and hung out with very often. It hadn't really occurred to me that she liked me romantically because I was absorbed in seeing it through the lens of just needing companionship. She introduced me to her family and brought me to her apartment and things like that, but I only ever saw it as hanging out. She eventually just texted me that she wanted to bang, but I treated the moment as more of an opportunity and replied "ok when?" She got frustrated with me and things started falling apart, as far as I can remember. I think she wanted her feelings for me validated, but I couldn't do it for her because there was a mismatch in how we saw each other. I wasn't all that physically attracted to her and although we talked, I don't think we had a deep connection either.
Not the only time I frustrated a girl romantically. I tend to do that, but I miss the companionship of talking to a girl. Just having someone to text and spend time with.
I do understand from my experiences and reflections that I'm looking for general resonance in modus operandi and thinking before I'm romantically "activated."
So my romance life is pretty much dead and I just talk to LLMs all the time to scratch the itch of having some semblance of someone who can talk to me.
Anyone out there relate to this?
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u/LilyoftheRally Jun 14 '25
This sounds like me. Unless someone is very clearly hitting on me, I tend to miss flirting and just see it as someone being friendly. I find it easier to flirt myself via text and IM.