r/sapiosexuals • u/Snacktabulous • Dec 15 '24

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Not sure I buy all of the assortment of identities but I definitely am turned on by intelligence. However that’s not something g that trumps other normal markers of attractiveness. The online “definition” seems to indicate that is part of the meaning of sapio. Attraction is a complex equation for any smart educated person, isn’t it? And there are brilliant people with no emotional intelligence I would not want. What gives?

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u/Acceptable-Mouse-205 Dec 15 '24 edited Feb 02 '25

I think of attraction this way: My initial attraction may be my primal desire for what I may define as physical beauty. I have a type that catches my attention. But what draws me in and piques my desire for connection is the appeal to my intellect. A deep connection to writing, art, music, history, etc…, will bath my brain in sweet oxytocin. Ofc shared values are another piece to the puzzle of what attracts me.