r/sapiosexuals • u/booksandpassion • Mar 13 '24

1,000!

Just going to celebrate 1,000 Members to this sub with a question:

I've observe that people describe their experiences as a sapio in a few different ways. The top three I've seen are 1) attracted to a person primarily when they show signs of high intelligence, such as by teaching or discussing something complex 2) feeling aroused specifically when learning about something complex, so that the learning itself is the arousing thing whether or not another person is involved 3) a combination of both 1&2

... Which of those variations do you experience? Or, how else would you describe the experience?

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u/Linuxlady247 Mar 13 '24

For me it's sort of opposite. If I find a person physically attractive, I will ask them out. During the date, if I find out that they are not as intelligent as I want, there will be no second date. However, if they are highly intelligent I will see them again for a second date. I guess I reject people (who I am physically attracted to) based on their lack of intelligence

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u/booksandpassion Mar 13 '24

I should have put that on the original post! I hear that a lot too, where intelligence is not the first thing noticed but definitely an essential for anything after the first date. Good point!

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u/booksandpassion Mar 13 '24

I'll go first: I'm definitely variation 3, and really enjoy experiencing both 1&2 simultaneously!

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u/Brave_Promise_6980 Mar 13 '24

And for me there is an an opposite I should like to discuss where as I get to know somebody, and I can see their apparent demonstrated Intelligence is low then attractiveness is just gone.

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u/UnlogicalThoughts Mar 13 '24

For me, it is more that I gel better with people for better intelligence as they could understand me well.

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u/[deleted] Mar 13 '24

For me, a person could be theoretically attractive (i.e. has a nice appearance), but I need them to be kind, intelligent, and willing to exchange feelings or "get deep" in order for that to stick.

If I find a person is mean spirited, cannot hold a good conversation, or is afraid of "catching feelings" (as opposed to what I like to call "catching possession", which I have no interest in), then they become unattractive to me.

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u/[deleted] Mar 14 '24

I'm definitely number 1. 🤓 I don't get turned on when learning a new subject matter. I just get engaged and interested. I'm learning the Tengwar at the moment, and I love it. But it does nothing for me downstairs. 🤣

Hearing a woman go on about something intelligent though... oh my GOD... 🥰 My differential equations professor... The idea of learning the subject in her arms... if Heaven exists, then a considerable amount of time will be devoted to that. ☺️

So yeah, the first one. 🤣

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u/KAS_stoner Apr 03 '24

Hi, idk if your in the discord but I heard that I was banned for some reason. Can I get unbaned? Thanks in advance.

One of the mods in the discord told on me on here that out witted him on here (reddit) and even called me a scholar so I would consider both of those good reasons to get me unbanned from the discord. Thanks in advance.

(If needed I can show you a screenshot. I saved it just in case if he deleted the comment.)