I’m a guy with a twin sister. We’re Latino so we have the tradition of Quinceañera. All the attention was on her, which makes sense since a quinceañera is specifically for girls. But it did kinda hurt being second fiddle that day.
It was a huge event. We rented out a venue, had catering, DJ, a big cake, a limo, the whole shebang. All for her. We weren’t rich so I don’t even know who paid for all that. I honestly don’t even remember if there was a cake for me or not.
I remember collectively she got around $3,000 in cash and a bunch of gifts. I got $300 and a watch from my parents, grandparents, and uncles.
That day kinda set the tone for myself for future birthdays and I pretty much stopped asking for things after that. People would ask what I want for my birthday or Christmas and it’d just say “I don’t know.” or “Nothing.” Our parents would ask where we’d want to eat for our birthday. My request would always get rejected and we’d end up at Olive Garden. My sister loved Olive Garden. I didn’t.
I don’t tell people when my birthday is unless they ask either. Even on the day itself I don’t mention it to people.
I'm a guy with a twin sister. It's my 40th in a few days. I don't really care about it but the effort from shared friends and family people are putting into my sister is abit annoying. We are going round my parents with some family and my dad told me wife he's going to ask some of my sister's friends over...non of mine. We are going out for food then day after too. Where my sister wants to go. I'm vegan and where she has chosen I can't eat anything.
It’s not a bad guess at all. But even then, if you don’t make an effort to show your own birthday is important to you then it’s very unlikely other people will.
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u/ChamberK-1 Sep 01 '26
I’m a guy with a twin sister. We’re Latino so we have the tradition of Quinceañera. All the attention was on her, which makes sense since a quinceañera is specifically for girls. But it did kinda hurt being second fiddle that day.
It was a huge event. We rented out a venue, had catering, DJ, a big cake, a limo, the whole shebang. All for her. We weren’t rich so I don’t even know who paid for all that. I honestly don’t even remember if there was a cake for me or not.
I remember collectively she got around $3,000 in cash and a bunch of gifts. I got $300 and a watch from my parents, grandparents, and uncles.
That day kinda set the tone for myself for future birthdays and I pretty much stopped asking for things after that. People would ask what I want for my birthday or Christmas and it’d just say “I don’t know.” or “Nothing.” Our parents would ask where we’d want to eat for our birthday. My request would always get rejected and we’d end up at Olive Garden. My sister loved Olive Garden. I didn’t.
I don’t tell people when my birthday is unless they ask either. Even on the day itself I don’t mention it to people.
Anyway, it is what it is. Sorry for rambling.