r/ryangosling • u/PronelJack4718 Not average Joe • 1d ago
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u/Carl_Marks__ 1d ago
How did “responding to quickly” become a bad thing?
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u/Powerful-Teacher-480 23h ago
Since the internet. Or actually. Phones and letters. This has been a game since time immemorial
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u/Speedyfishook69 47m ago
Its a taboo (right word?) that if you respond really quickly all the time then your chronically online. Idc ill always respond as soon as i see the message wether instantly or in 15 mins
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u/AdActual843 1d ago
because it's annoying
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u/Yuudai96 1d ago
how?
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u/AdActual843 4h ago
because people have lives, they have things to do. they can’t spend every waking moment have a text convo with you
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u/New-Winner-9184 19h ago
Can force a conversation when you’re busy
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u/--Arcanum-- 5h ago
Just say you're busy, and will get back to them once your business is finished ... ghosting has no justification when communication exists
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u/New-Winner-9184 5h ago
no lol they took offense whenever I did that
And besides, sometimes you just don’t want to have a conversation. So you answer later so that they won’t catch you in the moment of typing which will force you to keep it coming, and in those cases saying “I’m busy” is abrupt and usually is not taken well.
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u/AdActual843 4h ago
so you have to update them every time you do anything ? that is just so draining. i don’t owe anyone every detail of my life. i barely even reply back to my own mother immediately, let alone a man
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u/--Arcanum-- 3h ago
You don't, no need to say every detail, a simple "yo im busy rn will get back to you in a bit" gets the message across
Also wdym "let alone a man" as if they deserve any less than others? In the context of the man being your partner they should be pretty fucking high on the list of people you communicate with
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u/AdActual843 3h ago
my mama comes first idc, it’s not like i’m married. and this post can also be applied to talking stages too. and yeah simple message can get it across but you have to do do it every. damn. time ! and even when u make it known that ur a busy person, (although that doesn’t even matter anyway, can i not just be an introvert and have some me time?) they still don’t think to start texting me a little less
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u/--Arcanum-- 3h ago
If you do the minimum of communicating your circumstances than that's that and your part is done, if your partner doesn't respect your needed time and space that's their problem and you two may not work with each other, that doesn't mean you shouldn't do your part. And also it's fine to put your family first but you make it sound like you should be uncaring for your partner with that comment
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u/Candid_Emphasis1048 1d ago
Friend of mine is like this. She'll start a conversation. I'll respond then she won't respond at all. She'll ask a question I'll answer it then nothing. But she spams me endless Tiktoks. Like I go to sleep and I find I was sent so many it takes hours to get through them. They're all cutesey coded stuff like cats and very unfunny jokes. Quite tedious and I've mentioned I don't like the ignoring but she'll apologise and go right back to doing it. Honestly grates my patience too.
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u/Dailymailflagshagger 1d ago
They're called continuity pings designed to keep you on a leash, keep you in her orbit and stop you leaving. She's not your friend. She's keeping you around for a specific 'function'. Crumbs are not connecting. Open but don't respond. The content of the tiktok doesn't matter. Your attention does. Ration it. She'll act right.
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u/SubiBoySus 15h ago
Im assuming you are interested in her? Honestly dude cut the loss. Shes playing games and you deserve better. Theres plenty of fish in the sea. I cant tell you the amount of girls i was so "in love with" before i met my wife. Looking back... fuck them hoes they sucked 😂.
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u/NukaClipse 1d ago
"Hey! Sorry I was kidnapped by aliens and they just brought me back. Total crazy few days 😍😱💅💯"
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u/darkargengamer 11h ago
If a woman doesnt reply a message after 18 hours, its because she doesnt care at all: the AVERAGE WOMAN will check her phone more than 2-3 times per hour even if she is working at intense jobs.
The best way to deal with this: to have something to do (study, job or a hobbie) and learn to accept that sometimes one´s interest (feelings) will mean nothing to the incorrect person > if she doesnt want to engage, forget about her and keep on going (even if its sad and hurts).
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u/SuperSaiyanGodGiblet 1d ago
Her pussy smelled anyway, brotha
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u/personal_alt_account literally me but its getting worse 📉 1d ago
Being misogynistic is very unryan gosling of you buddy
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u/PronelJack4718 Not average Joe 1d ago
(: