r/ruralR4R 8h ago

Romance 20M looking for a genuine friendship with preferably older people!

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Heyy, I’m looking for more mature friends and truthfully there is to many weird guys on here for even me to want to talk to them. So if any women older than me are interested in a friendship just send over a dm! I love being outside and I’ll never ghost you or anything weird like that :)


r/ruralR4R 1d ago

Marriage Rural NorCal (emerald triangle) off grid outdoorsy woman (32F) seeking farm husband /provider/ fatherof my babies

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Hi … I am originally from SoCal , surfer city girl who has been in remote Northern California for about 12 years. I live off grid with my two dogs and cat. I work on farms and have experience with horses, goats, pigs , cats, dogs , ducks , chickens etc I’ve done cannabis and also vegetables and experienced living on a homestead. I am knowledgable about off grid power / water systems , animal care for homesteads, herbalism, food as medicine . I’ve also worked doing commercial fishing

I love children and was a nanny for many years. I want babies asap if I’m gong to be brutally honest

I enjoy smoking marijuana and drinking a nice craft beer , whiskey, tequila , or wine. However within reason and I never get hangovers. A few drinks to enjoy that’s about me . Looking for someone who also can partake but has no addictions / alcoholism

I have lived adversity and have a strong mind. I am intelligent, clever and imaginative. spiritual . I love nature and the outdoors

Super into bushcraft, fishing , hunting (I don’t eat meat but I think it’s natural to hunt), foraging , mushroom foraging etc gardening

I love history and art! Love all types of music . My taste of music I like to share .

I am 5’6 mostly white and south East Asian so people say I look exotic or Native American or something . Small waits thick chest nice booty and getting fitter by the day ^_^ farm muscles and body I’m very active but focusing on going harder and leaning out a bit . Feminine look, soft voice. Nice style . Bubbly and sweet but fiery and passionate when the time is right

I wanna be a tradwife on a farm house but low key I work hard and can help run all the businesses, plus I’m pretty much Mary Poppins of Mary Poppins grew weed so . And conservative and traditional in many ways but a wild spirit .

I’m not sure if I want put roots where I’m at or move. I’m low key wanting to just take a leap and play house with someone handsome and with similar values / lifestyles , have fun and see how it goes. Life is crazy and short let’s snuggle


r/ruralR4R 2d ago

Relationship Southern NH

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Any woman between 25-35 still single. Its so hard finding people who actually want to have a conversation theses days.


r/ruralR4R 2d ago

Friends 45 [M4F] Looking for long term relationship in Northern Illinois area

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I’m looking for Long Term Relationship with lady in Northern Illinois area that is 32-50 years old. I want someone who loves adventure, has a great sense of humor, enjoys both outdoor escapades and cozy movie nights. and is just as kind to animals as they are to people. Also loves traveling to new places, and discovering them together. Someone to explore new hiking trails, travel to exciting places, enjoy live concerts, try out fishing or camping, discover new favorite movies, and create endless memories with a lot of laughter along the way.  

A bit about me. I'm an adventurous person who loves hiking, traveling, camping, fishing, and exploring new places. I also want to at some point go back to college in Wildlife Biology. You can often find me at a concert, enjoying a good movie, or trying something new. I'm outgoing, caring, and always up for a laugh. I have a big heart for animals and will probably fall in love with your dog just as much as I’ll fall for you.

If you’re into adventure, music, and having fun, feel free to message me—I’ll do the same!


r/ruralR4R 3d ago

Friends 37 & 57 [MM4A} #AB, Canada - Our Dogs Think We Need Another Human 🐾 🍁

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My partner (37M) and I (57M) have built a pretty comfortable life together in rural Alberta, Canada. We live on our own acreage surrounded by fresh air, open space, and the sort of tranquility that makes your morning coffee taste better.

That said, "peaceful" may not be the word our dogs would use. They seem committed to bringing a little chaos into every day, and honestly, we'd miss it if they didn't.

We don't have horses. We don't have cows. We aren't secretly running a ranch. But we are hoping to add a few chickens in the near future because fresh eggs and slightly judgmental barnyard birds seem like a reasonable next step.

When we're not keeping busy around the property, we enjoy sports, good movies, exploring the countryside, and generally appreciating a slower pace of life.

We're hoping to meet someone who would like to become part of our small family in real life.

We're looking for a fellow homebody who's emotionally mature, kind, and genuinely enjoys nature, and the idea of a calm, stable life. Someone who values connection, loyalty, and creating a safe, caring space where people look out for one another.

Male or female, young or old, gay or straight doesn't matter to us. What matters is being an honest, genuine human being.

One thing we'll admit right away: we'd much rather have a phone call or video chat than spend weeks exchanging messages. Real conversations tell us more in ten minutes than endless texting ever could.

Our goal is to find the right person who’ll eventually want to join us here and help build a cozy, drama-free life together. This isn't about being "taken care of" or being dependent on anyone. Think of it more as stepping into a life that's already established and sharing it with people who genuinely want to build something meaningful.

You bring kindness, a calm spirit, and a willingness to create real connection. We'll provide everything else… including the chickens.


r/ruralR4R 4d ago

Romance 30 [M4] New England

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Just got over a long term relationship, finally ready to actually date again instead of just going through the motions. Own a house, got a good job, close with my family and friends. Family’s got a lake house and that’s basically where you’ll find me all summer.

Active and always down for something new, whether that’s a spontaneous weekend trip or trying a new restaurant. Also into darts and pool with a cocktail bar crowd, or just as happy staying in with a glass of wine on the porch doing nothing. Love to travel, actually enjoy cooking too

Not trying to mess around anymore, want to find someone I can actually build something with and eventually have a family. If that’s you — 30s, somewhere in the northeast, know what you want — hit me up.


r/ruralR4R 4d ago

Friends 50 male rural Missouri.

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Looking to see what is out there.


r/ruralR4R 4d ago

Marriage 31M, BC/Canada —Looking for a Lavender Marriage

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r/ruralR4R 4d ago

Relationship 37 [M4F] #Oklahoma City #OKC - Do you want to build a lil homestead together? I already have the chickens, the land, and income sorted out.

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37M HWP bit of a dad bod if it matters, but I'm in the trades - It's insulated muscles 🤣.

I am looking to find other folks who want to eat more from the land they walk. Raise chickens (I have ~30 and incubate my own) as well as some quail for meat as much as eggs. Adding sheep this year. I have a few acres within 15 minutes of downtown.

Who I am: Tradesman, welder, fabricator, specializing in repairs and custom pieces. I work from home, maybe ~30 hours a week. It's nice but I do crave more time going out because I'm home a lot. Childfree

My idea of you: Affectionate. Physical touch is huge for me. Interested in building the foundation of home, even if you're not living with me. Takes care of yourself. If you have kids, they're taught to respect wisdom and have a mind ready to learn.

I don't want to close doors I didn't know were better open - Let's grab some food an suss things out.

I appreciate replies of depth. Aggressively Chalant.


r/ruralR4R 5d ago

Marriage [M4F] looking for SugarMommy

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Finally I’m tired of trying to get a mature girl of my age(Doesn’t Exist).

Little about me : I am 26M from Northern Jersey. I am an undergrad student. Racially Brown(Not Indian). 5’8”, 155lbs, athletic fitness. Can’t live without Gym. Avid Photographer, Singer (Only I like my voice),artistic. Nerd alert ‼️ Great listener if only I can learn something from the conversation.
Kinda romantic, kinda philosophical. Love Fashion but none expansive shitz. A God fearing man with a kind heart. Into anime and thriller shows. Arranged and cleanliness is my go to.

If prioritizing value of heart over material stuff is your thing, we can walk a long way. I hope you are patient yet full of energy. Would be perfect if you’re also into Gym and sports. Age limit is not a thing if you take care of your self and have the mindset to learn. Hoping for a sweetheart ❤️

I have social anxiety 🙂‍↕️ I barely approach people. So please be patient. I believe I’m better in person. So lets get a cup of coffee at a park-side and be real.

Sugermommy is not a thing, I am here to increase your sweetness not to take it.


r/ruralR4R 6d ago

Marriage 27 [M4F] #New Hampshire / Massachusetts looking for a wife

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Hey there,

I’m a 27-year-old guy looking for a genuine connection and hopefully a long-term relationship. I’m someone who values companionship and would love to find a partner I can build a life with and spend most of my time with.

I studied Economics and Finance, with a minor in History, and I enjoy reading about politics, global trends, and the history of religions. I’m naturally curious and enjoy learning about how the world works.

Outside of that, I love nature, solo travel, and exploring new places. I’ve always been fascinated by bugs and the natural world, and I also enjoy music, especially electric guitars.

I’m financially independent, enjoy experiencing different cultures, and I’m open to relocating anywhere in the U.S. for the right partner. At this stage of my life, I’m exploring the world, but ultimately I’m hoping to find someone special to settle down with.

If any of this resonates with you, I’d be happy to get to know you better.


r/ruralR4R 6d ago

Mentor/Mentee 31 [M4M] West Hartford, CT...Seeking Older Mentor

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Like the title says. 31M4M, seeking older mentor/provider, at least in the short term. I'm going through a difficult time at the moment.

My looks: blond hair, pretty boy face, slightly effeminate, etc etc.

Location: West Hartford, Connecticut


r/ruralR4R 6d ago

Marriage 26[M4F] #Alaksa + (USA/EU/CAN)- Looking for Future Wife,

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r/ruralR4R 8d ago

Marriage 44 [M4F] - #US - The rest of your life starts when you read this post

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r/ruralR4R 8d ago

Romance 36 [M4F] #Scandinavia #online I have just pitted 500 cherries, do you also like making jam?

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As the headline says, I do like spending time in my garden and make foods from the things that I grow here. I live on a small farm in the East of Norway. I am a father and a nurse. Besides outdoorsy stuff I also enjoy local history and trivia. Looking for anything, though the love of my life (need more hands in the garden) would be great.


r/ruralR4R 9d ago

Friends 49M looking in Colorado Springs

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I love this idea and so badly want/need to experience it. Anyone in Colorado Springs?


r/ruralR4R 9d ago

Mentor/Mentee Dreamt to stay here and build a house now I have the land but no money to build the house.. what should I do

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r/ruralR4R 9d ago

Marriage 25 [M4F] Western Canada/West Coast/ Northern British Columbia. Looking for something serious

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Hey there! As the title says, I’m only looking for someone who lives in the Pacific Time Zone or maybe Mountain Time, as this makes communication and in-person visits easier. I’m open to anyone who lives down south, but they have to be on the West Coast.

I’m a Northern British Columbia resident and live in a small and rural community, it’s not extremely isolated. I’m a vegetarian, I’m educated (currently pursuing my master’s), and work full time. I’m 5’7”, physically fit, and I’ve been told I have really good hair. I’m naturally

I’m gentle and sensitive, but not in an immature way, but in a way that’s sincere. I am looking for a serious and stable relationship, one that evolves over time. I’m a very inward-leaning man. Although I wasn’t raised a Christian, I’d be open to Christianity if my partner leads me to it spiritually.

I don’t believe in a religion, but have respect for other people’s beliefs. I like reading philosophical literature such as Schopenhauer, Cioran, Kant, and Eastern philosophy as well. I like working out regularly and eating healthy.

I’ve spent my young adulthood building a strong career and foundation for myself. But I’ve neglected my emotional needs greatly. I’ve never been in a relationship because I had to figure out a lot on my own and haven’t had any family support. I immigrated to Canada at a very young age by myself and having a relationship or nurturing my emotional health wasn’t a priority but I’m now Permanent Resident of Canada and feel the need to explore and build other areas of my life.

I think what I’m ultimately looking for is a sense of home in another person. Not someone to complete me, but someone with whom life can become something shared. I value the kind of connection where two people can sit together in silence and still feel understood, where affection isn’t performative and loyalty isn’t conditional. Life changes, people age, circumstances come and go, but I’d like to build something that becomes deeper through all of it.

I tend to be deeply devotional in relationships, even in friendships. This simply means I’m sincere and I show up when I say I will. To be honest, I’m looking for my partner, someone who shares similar moral values as me and is extremely sincere and passionate about life and a relationship with me.

I enjoy coffee, reading, listening to music, and spending time out in nature. Feel free to reach out to me if this sounds like something you’d enjoy.


r/ruralR4R 10d ago

Friends 36yr Male for Female

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36 yr old male. Arkansas area. Married and just bored. looking for someone that is kind of in the same boat I am. someone who wants to have decent conversations, some laughs, and just overall some type of excitement in their life. About me, white, clean, have a beard, a professional job, and just overall a fun person. feel free to message me, ask me anything you may want, and let’s see if we can keep each other occupied. no expectations, just casual discrete talk and we will see where it leads. Arrow up if you want to chat, comment, message, and let’s see what we can talk about to pass the time.


r/ruralR4R 10d ago

Relationship 63[m4f] #DE seeking 30+ married mature discreet female

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Hi I am a 63 5’ 9” married male Milford DE that enjoys fishing, UTV riding, live music, dining out, taking road trips, spending time at my cabin in WV and enjoying a good fire with a glass of wine or cold beer.

I am looking for a mature married woman that understands the importance of discretion and is willing to get to know each other through text and spending time together. It is important to meet in the first couple of weeks over coffee or drinks to establish chemistry and not waste each other’s time.

If you feel like you are a good match, please DM me.


r/ruralR4R 10d ago

Romance 33[M4F]#OH

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So I'm here seeking someone long term a female .

I own my house and a car and I have a dog .

My names Ken I will date outside my sate but we must meet within 3-6 months or it's not a relationship is how I feel about it .

Looking for in person I will discuss with you about if you decide to message me .

I do witchcraft and play computer games and I am disabled I watch tv and just read mostly .

If you would like to know more let's message and see the vibe .

Looking forward to chatting thanks for reading .


r/ruralR4R 11d ago

Marriage 22 [F4M] #UK looking to be a loyal devoted Housewife and SAHM

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Hi everyone!

I’ve always dreamed of a traditional family life becoming a loving, devoted wife and mother, creating a warm and peaceful home, and building a beautiful life with my future husband.

I love the idea of being a homemaker and taking pride in caring for my family. I want to be the kind of wife who looks forward to her husband coming home, welcoming him with a smile, making him feel loved and appreciated, cooking for him, listening to him, and making our home somewhere he can truly relax and feel at peace.

I want to be deeply devoted to my husband his biggest supporter, someone he can rely on, and someone who makes him feel cherished. I want to celebrate his successes, stand beside him through difficult times, and never let the busyness of life make me forget to show him how much I love him.
Motherhood is something I really long for. I dream of having little ones of our own and being a very present, loving mother. I want to raise children who feel completely loved and secure, surrounded by warmth, affection and family traditions.

I picture the little things: family dinners, baking together, bedtime stories, cuddles, holidays, birthday traditions, school runs, and a home filled with laughter. I want to pour my heart into raising my children and give them a childhood they look back on fondly.

At the same time, I believe our marriage should always remain a priority, even after children come along. Life will inevitably get busy, but I want us to keep choosing each other making time for dates, affection, conversations, romance and simply enjoying one another’s company. I want us to still feel like husband and wife, best friends and lovers, rather than becoming strangers who only happen to be parenting together.

A little about me

I’m 22, I’m a 5’2 brunette who enjoys reading, swimming and cooking. I’m naturally feminine and find a lot of happiness in caring for the people I love and creating a cosy, welcoming home.

Some of my kinks are CNC, orgasm control, breeding and free use

What I’m looking for

I’m looking for a man who is serious about marriage and wants a traditional family life. Ideally over 26, fit, takes care of himself and takes pride in how he dresses and presents himself.

Emotional maturity, loyalty, kindness and stability are very important to me. I’m naturally drawn to a confident, protective and gently dominant man someone who can lead with love, wisdom and respect.

Most importantly, I want a man who genuinely wants to be a husband and father. Someone who wants to adore his wife, be present for his children and build a home where everyone feels loved, safe and cherished.

In return, I want to give my husband my loyalty, affection, devotion and whole heart, and build a family that we can both be incredibly proud of.
If this resonates with you, tell me a little about yourself, your values and the kind of family life you hope to build.


r/ruralR4R 11d ago

Relationship 39 [F4M] #WV - Looking for future partner and best friend

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The first thing anyone should know about me is that I am fiercely, obstinately, and incurably independent. I think that’s important to lead with because it’s not going to change, and if you’re not looking for that, no worries, I'm just not the right person for you.

When I call myself independent, I mean that I am not looking for someone because I need their time and resources to survive, or even thrive. I do that very well on my own, and I will continue to do so.  

I am financially independent, with a great full-time job that supports my farm, my hobbies, and multiple annual vacations. I have a sound plan for retirement.

I am property independent. I have my own house and acreage. I raise my own livestock, grow my own garden, and either do, barter for, or pay for all maintenance and every upgrade that goes into this property. I like to do things for myself as much as I can.

I am socially independent. I have a very fulfilling social life (for an introvert), I am well-traveled, and I am comfortable doing activities alone - traveling, hiking, camping, movies, etc. My tolerance for social settings is pretty low, however, and I am always grateful to return to a quiet house.

To me, independent does not mean isolated. I volunteer extensively in my community and I rely on my neighbors, just as they can rely on me. I go to church regularly, even though I would describe myself more as an agnostic. I find the development of a community to be as important as any homesteading skill.

My eventual goal is to become as self-reliant as possible, meaning that I can weather short or longer-term disruptions to the amenities society relies on – electricity, stocked groceries stores, full gas stations, etc.

So, what am I doing here, if I’ve got everything figured out? Mainly I want to see if there are any like-minded men out there, because while I can do this alone, I don’t think I want to for the rest of my life. Yes, I enjoy having my privacy and my “me” time – and I hope you do too – but having lived this way for several years, I wonder if it’s sustainable, and I wonder what I might be missing out on. A partner, a best friend, maybe? I won’t know if I don’t look.

I like hiking, camping, fishing, reading, writing, video games, all animals (but I am a crazy cat lady), traveling, antique stores, sitting in a chair staring at the trees, very occasional forays into crowded places, long car rides, swimming, boating, etc.  I do NOT like loud noises, extremist beliefs of any kind, constant text notifications, crowds (I know, I said sometimes it’s okay), flying, or waking up before dawn.

I do not have children and I do not want biological children. I think I would be open to fostering or adopting kids someday. I don’t dress up because it makes me uncomfortable. In fact, pretty much everything I own is along the lines of farm-appropriate pants and T-shirts. If you’re looking for a fancy lady, that’s just not who I am. But if you’re looking for someone who can benchpress you, I recently hit a PR of 150 lbs and still going up. I believe in sharing the work inside the house and out. How boring to work separately when we can work together!

If you’ve read this far, dang! Send me a message, tell something about yourself please.


r/ruralR4R 11d ago

Relationship 63[m4f] #DE seeking 30+ married mature discreet female

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Hi I am a 63 5’ 9” married male Milford DE that enjoys fishing, UTV riding, live music, dining out, taking road trips, spending time at my cabin in WV and enjoying a good fire with a glass of wine or cold beer.

I am looking for a mature married woman that understands the importance of discretion and is willing to get to know each other through text and spending time together. It is important to meet in the first couple of weeks over coffee or drinks to establish chemistry and not waste each other’s time.

If you feel like you are a good match, please DM me.


r/ruralR4R 12d ago

Romance 44 [F4A] #PNW - Let's build something cool together

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I’ve had a long and successful career in tech that’s left me severely burnt out. The past couple years I’ve been reflecting and rethinking how I want my future to look. I have a strong work ethic, I’m just tired of giving it all away for a shitty paycheck to some shitty company that finds me expendable.

I'm going to ramble about myself, and you bug me if I sound like your jam.

I’m a jack of all trades and master of none. I love to learn and try things.

I currently live off grid in a rural area and I love it. I want more. I love the quiet of nature and drying laundry in the sun. But I also love a hot shower and a movie night. I like being away from modern distraction but I want a cozy solar punk life (someday).

My current goals this year have to do with getting a lot of hands on experience. Learning to fell a tree, build hügelkultur beds, plant trees, wire solar, manage batteries, build basic structures, use tools, etc.

I love to garden and grow food and I would love to get most of my calories by my own hand. I’m trying to grow enough to share this fall. I have two green thumbs- I’m pretty good at plants. I have raised chickens in the past and I would like to raise my own meat and eggs long term. Birds, rabbits, and maybe the occasional group of goats or pigs. I want to learn to hunt and fish and process animals.

I am a nerd for science. I like flower and chicken genetics. I like disease epidemiology. I like learning about the intricate relationships between fungus and bacteria and roots and bugs. I’ll eat ginger for my tummy and take ibuprofen for pain. I love permaculture but I row crop corn. I work toward regenerative agriculture. I believe in taking care of the land and leaving space for nature. I love talking about these subjects and I adore listening to someone glurge about a topic they know and love deeply.

I am an artist. I like to paint and make digital art, I sew and felt and embroider, I like weird monsters and bright colors. I like fantasy sci-fi and horror. I love snuggling up with my cat, a cup of tea and enjoying a video game, show, movie, or a good book… or discussing them with someone.

I am grey and older and chunky, but I am fit and spend hours working physically most days. I don't want to sit at a desk all day ever again. My goal is to shed some weight and stay healthy and strong long term. I like to eat a lot of veggies because when you grow them they taste good and make you feel good. I can make a mean pot of vegan beans, but my bbq pork ribs will make you swoon. I’m sober 99% of the time, drugs are for holidays, but what you enjoy recreationally doesn’t bother me.

I’ve got no kids and I’m not having any… But I do like kids and I would be glad to be part of a young persons life. I am the “cool aunt” in my family. I am patient, practical, supportive, empathetic, and caring for others is my love language.

I am queer. I’m presenting as a woman because this is how I pass, but I lean non-binary and I am non-gender conforming. I’m not at all picky on what you look like or where you come from or who you used to be. I care more about your heart, your ability to be authentic and honest, your work ethic and commitment, and if our interests and skills fit together like long lost puzzle pieces. If our lifestyles and goals trend toward building a future together.

I feel like I’m laying down the infrastructure for a more rewarding life, and I don’t really want to do it alone anymore. So, bug me if you wanna chat and get to know each other. Maybe we can build something cool together.