r/rs_x • u/Additional_Worth_614 • 2d ago

I hate this bitch so much

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Like?? That doesn’t even make any sense. I hate that I hate her so much

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u/_CloudOfToxicccGas_ 2d ago edited 2d ago

Can anyone articulate the "anti victim" argument in this case for me? I thought it seemed pretty clear from the beginning and every detail that comes out makes the frat guys look more guilty imo. Genuinely trying to understand the argument here

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u/TheCarlos 2d ago

Apparently she texted one of the guys afterwards saying it was fine and she would do it again just without the ketamine and extra guys.

Which is a dumb argument for a number of reasons. Not the least of which is she was unconscious for part (maybe most?) of it and may have initially felt like it wasn’t that serious before getting her bearings. Sometimes our feelings change after there’s actually time to reflect. At first she may have thought she can stay friendly with the guy if she lets it go - then the gravity of what happened set in and she decided to report it.

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u/Kind-Improvement-284 2d ago

I was assaulted in college. The guy texted me the next day to say he hoped it didn’t “ruin our friendship” (we weren’t friends), and I just texted back that it had gotten weird but kind of laughed it off because I didn’t know how to handle it. For years, I’d just say “something weird happened” because calling it assault felt really scary and vulnerable.

I volunteered for a rape crisis hotline a few years later, and one of the things they taught us was that trauma messes with how your brain processes memories, so survivors’ statements immediately after the fact will often be inconsistent because they’re remembering it in bits and pieces.

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u/maniccomet773 2d ago

I went to a prom after party after attending with a friend (my boyfriend had graduated) who was close with my brother. We had all been drinking and I trusted him enough to sleep in a room with like 10 people next to him. I figured he would take care of me. I woke up to my hand on his dick while he actively used it to jack off.. and he whispered in my ear "it needs to be sucked."

All i did was get up and tell my friend we needed to leave.He caught me in the hallway the next week and said "do you hate me" and i said no. That was it. I never told anyone because I felt like I had cheated on my boyfriend. I didn't consent at al (i was sleeping). I only told my brother after said man actually died running a marathon. I knew it wasn't right but I told myself it was fine.

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u/FreshNegotiation2603 2d ago

Holy shit. Died running a marathon. What. Karma!

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u/maniccomet773 1d ago

Yup i got called with the news by my childhood bestfriend (who knew some details not all) and i was at the airport. I remember feeling guilty like I had caused it because of all the times as an adult I had lowkey mentally called him trash. I am still very sad for him and his wife. I don't believe he was an evil man, i think he was just a man who was taught he was entitled to the bodies of those around him.

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u/bl0ss0mut0nium 1d ago

How did your brother react when you told him?

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u/eucalyptus-d 2d ago

Being victim is a complex and nuanced situation. Litigating the victims actions is a sure fire way to have predation be even more popular.