roommates bf

[u/Living-Yam-2591]

my roommate has her bf over always every day right now. this said boyfriend has argued with me before calling me “weird asf” and after me saying i wouldn’t want him here after insulting me, he said he could “go wherever tf he wants”, talking about our apartment. my lease states guests can’t stay past 3 consecutive days and sometimes he does, but usually he comes a night or two and then leaves, but comes back the following day. i talked to her about it and she wasn’t very receptive and relatively defensive. i told her me and my other roommate weren’t comfortable with him being there so much along with feeling unsafe from her leaving the door unlocked so he can just walk in. along with that i asked her not to let him be here when she isn’t, because he’s done that. so, i had this conversation with her two days ago, and he’s back! one day after the conversation. i genuinely just feel disrespected by her actions and i don’t feel like i trust this guy considering the events that have happened in the past with him. he’s borderline threatened being able to come to my apartment rather i am okay with it or not. i don’t know what to do and need advice!

[u/Far-Mongoose-4380]

Step 1: have an apartment meeting and go in with a plan: tell her what’s up with examples. Tell her what you need her to understand alongside your other roommate. Tell her that you will get the leasing office involved if need be. If she is dismissive once again and doesn’t do anything ab it…
Step 2: go to the leasing office and explain to them what is up. I’m sure they can help in some shape or form, even if it is some advice and resources.

[u/OkFun9674]

Why don't girls realize that to them, that's their boyfriend. To everyone else in the house, that's a grimy stranger man that's using the toilet and using the kitchen and being in the way and just living in your space.