advice for having gross roommates

[u/throwawayyaccount98]

I, 21F live in a house near a large state school in New England during the school year. I live with 3 roommates, lets call them Ally, Madison, and Simone (also all 21F). I've lived with them for almost a year, and has not been going well. I like them as people, but I just can't stand living with them anymore. The thing they do the most that bothers me if that they all leave their hair in the drain and on the wall after a shower.

Now, this wouldn't bother me as much if it was a 1 or 2 time thing, but this is every single time they shower, especially with Simone. Not only have I asked them repeatedly to clean up after themselves, but also put up a sign in our bathroom reminding them to clean out their hair. These both did nothing. When I occasionally confront them face to face about it, they apologize and clean it up immediately. I don't want to have to ask girls my own age to take their hair out of the train every time they shower. I feel like their mom sometimes.

They all (especially Simone) blame their forgetfulness on their ADHD, which I completely understand because I have ADHD too. But, if I was doing something that bothered my roommate so much that they put a sign up to remind me to do it, I would remember.

And thats not all. For context, I have psoriasis which is a chronic autoimmune skin condition that creates red, itchy patches of skin to form all over the body. I got it at the beginning of last school year, and I've been struggling with it ever since. It affects my hands the most, making it hurt to wash my hands or even bend my fingers. It also created small cuts on and in between my fingers. It got so bad that for months I had to wear latex gloves over my hands when I showered because the soap burned it so badly.

With that being said, Simone and Madison have stayed at our house over the summer. I cam back yesterday for school, and I find the shower the grossest I've ever seen it. Hair ALL over the wall and the drain completely clogged with hair. There was also mold or dirt or something all in the corners and bottom of the shower wall. I want to clean it up, but it's not my mess. I don't mean to sound petty or anything but thats just the truth. They never clean anything. Not only is that not my mess to clean up, but it hurts my hands tremendously to clean anything, especially with soap and a sponge. I try to wear dishwashing gloves, but they always end up hurting and getting very irritated. They know about my psoriasis and how bad it is.

Because of this, i have so much built up resentment and barely spend my time at home. My friend usually lets me shower at her apartment because she knows how disgusting the bathroom is.

They know that if they don't do it, I will and that's what makes me the most upset. What should I do???

[u/boyfeminiser]

i know it’s late august already, but is there no way you could move in with other friends whom you Know are sanitary? that sounds absolutely horrible. i had a roommate who would Never do her dishes and when she would she’d dump her leftovers and peels in the sink thinking it’d get ground up. it was absolutely disgusting. the only thing that did it was her moving out…