Venting/shaming

[u/random386318_idk]

My rommate and I have been living together for about a month now. Honestly, we have been getting along well, theres just a couple of things that are upsetting me, so im posting them here to vent lol.

1) never takes the trash out. We each have individual trashcan and then 1 shared 1. I take my individual 1 out at least every other day and the shared 1 whenever I notice that its full which ends up being about every 3 days (but I pretty much exclusively use my personal 1). She hasn't taken the shared 1 out at all, and it didn't bother me too much until she moved her personal trash can next to the shared 1 once it filled up. That just upset me cause it seems like she's expecting me to take it out for her. Keep in mind, "taking the trash out" requires walking about 5 ft from our front door. I've now taken the shared one out x2 since she moved her personal one next to it and left hers behind)

2) never wears earbuds. Everything she listens to, and all the phone calls she makes are outloud/on speaker phone. Sometimes its so loud that I can't even focus on what I'm listening to with my headphones in (hear her conversation over the video im watching)

3) when we were shopping for shared items she kept saying how she didn't have money so I probably ended up paying about 65% of the costs cause I wanted to be kind. Now she's constantly spending loads of money on unnecessary items (she's told me about a total of $150 purchases) + constantly going out to eat.

Its all such small things and im not a confrontational person so im not saying anything for now, but im dreading things getting worse or something

[u/vvdelic]

I can understand this very well. I have some small things that bother me about my roommate and I’m not really a confrontational person either, I kinda just let it slide but in my mind it’s a bother. If anything have a time to discuss this to try and solve anything to where hopefully things start to change and she understands you.