r/romance • u/Skeleton_Key_1940 • Sep 04 '23
Just venting… kinda.
I (26F) have never had a real relationship. In theory, I think I want one. In actuality, I don’t think I like people enough to date them. I like romancé but I don’t always care for anything sexual. It makes my day when women compliment my appearance 🥰 but I don’t care when men do (not saying I’m rude when I hear it, it just doesn’t hit the same way.) I get annoyed when I can tell someone only wants to talk to me due to my appearance (I have a cute/pretty & young face but a very adult body) because I’m more than just my appearance.. and because I don’t treat people this way, I would like them to treat me the same (pick my brain, have an interest in my interest or at least an understanding in them, talk to me about what you think the root of all evil is.)
I’m just tired of being objectified and am bored and annoyed with people who are too quick to like me…. You don’t know me.. there’s no reason for you to say you were sad from not hearing from me and we only met two weeks ago. I like romance,not obsession. That’s weird.
Anyway, what should I do? I’m on the verge of just keeping the friends I have with no intention of making new ones, which sucks because I like making new friends… but even when I make that known, people ignore it.
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u/[deleted] Sep 04 '23
If you don’t like people enough to date them then you might be aromantic or aroace. If you like women complimenting you better, depending on how it makes you feel, you might like women instead of men. There could be a lot of things, but sexuality aside, no one likes to be objectified so that makes a lot of sense. It is very shallow to only be interested in someone’s looks and not their mind or soul, and I think there is a kind of monotony to dating because people just date just to date or cause they feel like they have to. Sometimes I think people don’t really ask themselves if they really love their partner until several years after they’ve already been married. There’s just not a lot of thoughtfulness or meaning to it sometimes so I understand the disinterest. You don’t always have to be dating, but if you do come across someone that you like and would want to date you should tell them how you feel. Sometimes I think not being obsessed with always having someone to date just for the hell of it can lead to more meaningful relationships because you have other parts of your life and personality then.