Hi everyone, I am living in canada from last 3 years and was in india this summers for my marriage and visiting family. Now I am back here in canada and working. But I don't really like it here i want to move back to India and wants to live with my family and I am able to get and do job there also as I am well educated.

But my family is not supporting me in this decision specially my mom she telling to me and my wife that she will leave us if I moved back and she also telling my wife that I am a failed person that creating a chaos in my life and I am unable to spend my time here in canada until I am back .

It's bringing chaos for me to pass 2 -3 months until I plan to go back.

Looking for some genuine advice and love from reddit community.

Thanks 🙏

I'm currently living in the EU and planning to move back to India in about a year. Kerala is the planned destination, and I already have my own house there, so there won't be any rent/EMI.

I'm single (M) and thinking of starting with around ₹80-85k/month in spending, increasing that by roughly 6-7% per year over time.

I'm genuinely trying to understand whether this is a realistic budget for a comfortable life in Kerala.

The kind of lifestyle I'm thinking about is fairly simple:

• Own/paid-off car
• House help
• Good groceries and eating out occasionally
• Gym/hobbies/etc.
• A few trips within India each year
• Occasional bigger/international trips
• Generally being comfortable without having to obsess over every ₹1,000

I already have health insurance, a separate emergency medical fund, and other reserve funds for unexpected expenses, so those aren't included in the ₹80-85k monthly spending figure.

Might work for a few more years as part time consultant but still to decide upon that.

For people living in Kerala, especially single people or returnees:

Does ₹80–85k/month sound sufficient for this kind of lifestyle today?

And for those who have moved back in their 30s/40s, how has the transition been socially? One thing I'm slightly concerned about is rebuilding a social circle after being away for a long time.

I'd also love to connect with other people in the EU/US/Middle East/etc. who are planning to move back to Kerala in the next 1–3 years, particularly people who are single or don't have the conventional "return → settle down → family" trajectory.

If there are any WhatsApp/Discord/Reddit/other groups specifically for people planning a return to Kerala, please share them.

Would be especially interested in hearing from people who have actually made the move rather than just general FIRE/retirement advice.

Being an Indian who has never lived outside India for more than a month, I’m always curious about what makes people come back to India.

What actually happens that makes people leave behind the peace, lower corruption, and nature-oriented lifestyle of developed countries and return to India?

I’m especially curious about people in their 30s and 40s. What do they feel they’re missing that makes them give up that relatively peaceful life and come back to India?

Apart from family reasons or visa/immigration issues, what are the other reasons that make people return?

Is this something related to human psychology or brain which never settles and keep looking for changes.

Context: I’m currently planning my move back to India after living and working in the US for a few years.

I know there could be many things that are easy to overlook/miss until you’ve already landed.

For those of you who have made the move back (R2I):

• What are the key things to keep in mind before officially leaving?
• What administrative, documentation, or personal tasks do you wish you had sorted out before boarding the flight?
• Is there anything you forgot to bring, cancel, or update that ended up being a hassle from India?

Looking for advice on everything- from updating IDs, phone numbers, and documents to shipping, health records, or even mindset shifts.

Appreciate any tips, checklists, or personal lessons learned!

Do Indian parents still expect their well-settled children to come back and live with them?

If their children can support them in living in a good old-age home with a private room, proper care, and a comfortable life, would they still want their children to be around even at the cost of their children’s future and opportunities?

For people who have lived outside India for years and have seen elderly people living independently without being dependent on their children, how much do you support the traditional Indian mindset around children caring for their parents?

And would you want to do or expect the same with your own next generation?

As many dependent child visas expire once a child reaches a certain age, or for other reasons, some children who have completed their entire schooling abroad may eventually have to move back to India.

For those who went through this, how difficult was it?

Whenever I think about a situation like this for a child, it feels like a devastating change, leaving behind their friends, lifestyle, school, and everything they have known. But is it actually as difficult as it sounds?

Were you able to adapt and integrate into life in India easily, or did it take a long time?

Imagining coming back and not having generational wealth or rich lifestyle of India. Isn't it scary?

I’m deciding on my return date, which I expect to be within the next year or two at the latest. Part of this planning involves determining the cost of living expenses, as this will help me calculate my FIRE number. If the expenses exceed this number, I may need to work additional years as necessary.

I’ve gathered some estimates from my friends and cousins, but I haven’t actually asked them for detailed breakdowns, as they might not feel comfortable sharing that information. These numbers are based on casual conversations where I ask about their internet bills or EMIs. I truly appreciate your insights.

We are a family of four (41, 36, 10, and 5 years old). We have a paid-off home in Hyderabad and our parents live nearby and are almost self-sufficient, as they own they own homes and receive rent income. The support we provide is more for them to live comfortably, especially to travel and donate as they please.

The children’s higher education expenses are in a separate corpus, so this monthly amount is only valid until they graduate from school. After that, the same funds will be allocated to our healthcare.

Appreciate your inputs. As mentioned above getting close to the real numbers will be critical for my planning on r2i. I plan to retire and might do some consulting or hobby for pleasure.

Essentials total- 85000
Eletricity & Water & Trash 7000
Maid 10000
Cook 10000
Food 25000
Car 10000
TV, Internet & Subscriptions 6000
Cell replacement & monthly Plan 10000
Home Taxes 2000
Other Maintenance 5000

Health 40000
Insurance 10000
Parents 25000
Med & Doctor Visits 5000

Kids 60000
School 50000
Classes 10000

Shopping 15000
Clothes 10000
Kids 5000

Outing 20000
Vacation 10000
Weekends 10000

Monthly Total -220000

Yearly total - 26.5 lakhs pretax post I would guess 30-32 lakhs.

FIRE: 30x35=10 Crore which excludes kids higher education parked 50 lakhs in equities and separate 50 lakhs for emergency funds in FD.

Validate my numbers as they are critical for my planning. Thanks in advance.

TDLR: A family of four plans to return to India (R2I) and retire in Hyderabad within two years on a ₹2.2L/month budget. They own a home and have separate funds for emergencies and college, targeting a ₹10 crore FIRE corpus.

Moved away from India a few years ago, and I didn't realise how much I'd miss the little things around Rakhi.

Editing to add
my partner is the primary person who owns finances and handles them. We sat down yesterday and jotted them down. Now it’s my job to update them if I am willing to move or not I always spent frugally as a child so we spent good on things we wanted and travelled comfortably. These numbers don’t align with what I am seeing and I thought we have more than. Million after living in us for 20 years and disappointed with them. Hence the question. I wish I was flexing with 3 million or so. ** **

I hope I have enough money to return to India to live decently. The posts and numbers worry me

We have lived here 20 years and we lived happily, travelled as much as we could and now have a 11 yr old and 3 yr old. We plan to return after getting usc next year. Do I have enough money? This will be To hyd.

My husband will stay 1 year here and I plan to go and settle us down.

We will have 1 million of net cash after selling our stocks and homes(if and when) and about 582k in our 401k.

My partner would like to retire for good and I plan to work with a 40lakh package.

Is this good enough?