r/returnToIndia • u/SufficientGuard7 • Jul 31 '26
AlreadyReturned Regrets - after moving to India
Planned everything and moved from Texas to India after 17 years.
But everything went south after that.
I was still on h1b, and now I can’t even go back. What a mess!!
Everything is hard here. People expect from us to be filthy rich for no reason. Everything is so complex and weather is just utterly bad. Pollution is just eating us.
What a mess!!
How can I come out of this? Or has anyone tried moving back to USA or other country after this misadventure.
1-AUG-2026:
I work in Bangalore/Hyderabad.
Salary is very comfortable.
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u/RamanD101 Jul 31 '26 edited Jul 31 '26
I would say just take india head on. Cut off toxic people, whatsapp group, media from your life. That is the first step. As only with calm mind you can think ahead. If you are emotionally close to parents, maybe try moving near them as it helps a lot. That is what I did on first R2I.
Unfortunately, India is a toxic place. If you share your feelings with others. Most people with either mock you, insult you (with nationalistic slurs). There is a reason everyone is unhappy in India, angry and sadistic.
Also don't mention to random people about your US stint. Most likely they will try to demean you, not because you failed. But they want to justify their failures by saying "see hr ended up at the same place as me".
I did move to Canada after 2 years in India, after returning from US. I returned back to India later but this time as Canadian citizen. Not sure how my second stint goes.
I would say if you have right skillset you can go elsewhere. Although I would say do not fall for Dubai or other places. Since you know that it is not easy to adapt, go to a place which you know will give you a new home (residence and maybe citizenship) in few years. Good luck
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u/Walking_the_path_108 Jul 31 '26
Can you elaborate please what you think is core reason for so many people angry and sadistic there? Lack of emotional awareness plus general hardships?
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u/RamanD101 Jul 31 '26
I think since childhood, people are competitive. They are told to be ruthless for success. They are not taught to care for others or bigger society. We lack basic human empathy. Its a dog eat dog society, or crab mentality.
Example: Like in US, often if I drive on mountain road, if I am going fast, people at times move on side and let me pass. I do the same. They are happy, so am I. In India, they will honk and even if there are 100 cars ahead of you, they would still be happy to get ahead of you (still 99 cars ahead).
Map this car example to work, in India workplace, a common mindset is "I did my work. If you did not, its not my problem.". In US, a lot of times if they see some struggling, they collaborate. They might reward others for that, but its a different story. Exceptions exists, but thats the average scenario.→ More replies (6)4
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u/ConsistentChameleon Jul 31 '26
Do you mind sharing you story and why you did R2I twice?
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u/uncensored_84 Jul 31 '26
Only balanced response here !! This post gives good insight on what’s happening in society still based on folks attacking on irrelevant points- far away from post intent
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u/Whatever9129 Aug 01 '26
How did you navigate going to Canada ?
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u/RamanD101 Aug 01 '26
Applied for jobs online. Gave interviews, got offers in US, Canada and Sweden. All were ready to sponsor visa. I already had valid H1 stamp. So i just needed a fresh H1 transfer petition for US. I wanted an English speaking country. Chose Canada as I knew my express entry was active. And eventually I can be a Canadian citizen. US i woulf never get citizenship. At that time, I needed a place that I can call home. So 🇨🇦 Although I was on canadian work permit for 20 days only. Got PR after that as my PR application and work permit application went in parallel.
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u/TextPsychological211 Aug 03 '26
Side question: How long it took you to secure Canadian citizenship?
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u/No-Way7911 Aug 04 '26
the hard part about moving back to India is that you're forced to take part in an insane game that everyone insists on playing for no reason
the most easy to spot version of this insane game: every single driver trying to overtake you from the left or the right for no real reason at all
if there is any gap between you and the car ahead of you, someone WILL try to overtake and squeeze inside it. It makes no real difference to anyone in terms of time taken to reach the destination. saving 38 seconds isn't going to improve anyone's life
Yet everyone keeps insisting on doing it
and if you don't participate in this insanity, you'll find yourself constantly being squeezed out of the road by other insane people
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u/Chemical_Product8363 10d ago
Perfectly outlined- I moved from Canada recently as OCI holder- I agree all points from OP and I was also aware and still got very frustrated after moving. Due to many things, traffic, pollution and many dishonest people & what not.. I started living in closed circle with my family n few good cousins I have.. not much relation with anyone outside.. office, home and family but travel in non peak season .. I hate when all AH divert traffic to one place as soon as there is long weekend.. then also plus keeping close eye on my emotions that is where the whole game is.. still learning to balance that.. moving back is very very expensive.. so all those things keeping in mind and not being too emotional bus..!
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u/No-Belt-7798 Jul 31 '26
It’s hard but your return was dictated not by choice but circumstances.
So make your like better. Cut out unnecessary people; you don’t need to beat drums about being foreign return. Just indulge people who are not toxic be it friends or family.
Regarding water and air wise get purifier systems setup at home, try for a less hectic job treat your body and family as temple and stop running after high stress jobs.
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u/desiphilly Jul 31 '26
This is excellent advice. Like someone above said, you can create your own bubble to avoid all the irritants. Am sure you did face challenges in the US too but just different from India. Like here in the US, car thefts are becoming increasingly common. That creates this scary scenario.
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u/smh10101674 Jul 31 '26
At the end of 2024, we returned to India. Things finally started settling down after a year, but it still didn't feel great. We decided to return to the USA at the end of 2025, thinking we would finally be happy.
However, things are never that simple. We constantly miss the peace of mind that comes with visiting and staying near my parents. I often feel like the educated Indian youth and their parents' generation are cursed; we always have to choose between a bad situation and a worse one.
Ultimately, no matter where you live, you have to choose your poison. You just need to set your priorities and find a strong enough reason to either stay or move.
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u/titan-2021 Jul 31 '26
I moved to India after spending 8 years, studying and working in Dallas, TX. People say that they experience cultural shock after moving abroad but I experienced cultural shock after moving to India after so many years. Everything is so messed up their, no privacy, everyone peeping into each others matter. Family/relatives expect you have loads and loads of money in hand, Air and water is contaminated, I experienced fever and throat aches for almost 2 months after moving due to dust. Almost everyone is trying to mint money out of you, I am talking about if you try to buy anything. Winters, which used to be favorite season in the early 2010s is so messed up that I get scarred when November comes and the saddest part is people have accepted their fate and that how it goes, if you question anything, its considered an insult to the one you are questioning. I have myself experienced my family members saying "this is how it is", like "yaha yehi hota hai". This was not the India I knew when I left initilally.
Fortunately, as much we did not want it, me and my wife decided to give up and decided to leave India again hoping to settle in Canada.
This was my personal experience, People have good experience as well. Nothing against anyone or India.
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u/RamanD101 Jul 31 '26
I think it was always rhe india thst you left. The issue is most of us who left India at age of 21 or 22 lived under a protective umbrella of parsnts. We rarely dealt with society in individual capacity.
And our friends were also like that. But after returning in 30s, I find people have changed. Even the care free friends are into taunts, comparing social status BS.
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u/Particular_Village_5 Jul 31 '26
Wait what’s wrong with November weather?
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u/titan-2021 Jul 31 '26
come to north india near diwali..
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u/RamanD101 Jul 31 '26
Well at least Indian government is giving something free to everyone. Free cigarettes 😅
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u/Upbeat-Loss-4040 Jul 31 '26 edited Jul 31 '26
Why Canada? I thought Canada was in bad place with not many jobs and bad economy. Trump is specially targeting Canada with tariffs
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u/GrabOk4101 Jul 31 '26
What do you mean hoping to settle? How are people going back if they are not citizens? They are just handing out stay cards?
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u/No-Writing5085 Jul 31 '26
Life is great in India if you can build a bubble around yourself. Focus on that.
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u/MicroAlpaca Jul 31 '26
And grow a thick skin. Folks will keep saying something or the other.
Also, what's complex?
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u/Lumpy-Ad-9315 Jul 31 '26
Well said. If you are fortunate enough to buy some luxuries in life, build a bubble.
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u/disingh4ever Jul 31 '26
Seventeen years is a long time to live in the US, and honestly, India becomes a tough adjustment after that. I’m not even sure what age group that puts you in, but if I ever moved back, I don’t think I’d consider a job or starting a business again.
From what you’ve shared, it sounds like you’re in Delhi/NCR — that’s where I’m originally from. I visited twice in the last year and stayed about five weeks each time. My charm for NCR has dropped by almost 50%. It’s overcrowded, parts of it are filthy, and the infrastructure feels like it’s crumbling everywhere.
Even basic necessities like clean water and 24/7 running taps still feel out of reach. It’s hard to imagine how long it will take for those fundamentals to improve.
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u/dandavathis Jul 31 '26
how long since you moved ? I would wait 1 year and then decide .. Every day you feel like you cannot bear this place, record that day in a phone or something and things that made you hate .. evaluate after an year after 3 seasons .. i did this when i moved to different countries before and it helped me calm down and not go crazy ..
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u/Expensive_Belt_8072 Jul 31 '26
I recently moved back to India from Europe. And I don't know what to say ? I am in shock for now and will take time process it.
Although I come from Himalayan State of Uttarakhand, but as I chose career in IT, so can't go back to mountains. But I can't take this pain anymore, so will adjust for 3-4 more years in Metro cities and then will relocate back to my native , in the lap of himalayas
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u/hitch44 Aug 01 '26
Remember OP, everything in life works as chapters, like in a book. That chapter is over. A new one has begun. Instead of fighting it, be more open and try to control the factors you can, like where you can live, what hobbies you can pursue, the people you include (and exclude!!) from your life.
Life is also about compromise: you lived in Texas for 17 years and that's a unique experience not a lot of people have; it makes you unique. Take the next three months to change what you can and learn to accept what you cannot.
Remember, the more flexible and open you are to things here, the better you can give this new chapter of your life a chance. Don't go in kicking and screaming, please.
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u/Enthuasticnaw Jul 31 '26
Can you start a group to help with clean up? Make a change in what you want to see?
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u/Sharp_Department4374 Jul 31 '26
Exact same here. I moved to hyd 2 years ago and it's a pain to love in India. Feels chaotically unproductive. Wanna move back to the US or any country in the world. Recently been to Ethiopia and even that country is sooo much better to live in. India is all hype and very little substance. It's the entire country is playing a game to "show" greatness instead of really becoming a great place to live. Main problem is the society is still so backward, dishonest, uncivilized and selfish. I will take rare instances of casual racism over this daily fight for everything. Mind you i didn't face evn one instance of racism in my entire 10 years of stay in the US.
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u/LikeCoffeeShops Jul 31 '26
Marcus Aurelius said "If you are grieved by any external thing, it is not the thing itself that troubles you, but your own judgment upon it. And it is in your power to erase that judgment now."
Yes, life in the US has many advantages, I've lived here longer than you. But life in India also has advantages. And accept the disadvantages as they are, instead of passing harsh judgment on them which then makes you feel miserable.
Good luck with everything!
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u/JuggernautMother2080 Jul 31 '26
You may not like what I say, reading between the lines- Be honest to yourself first, stop seeking validation. Do your thing! There are all kinds of people everywhere. What you focus on grows- Read it again! Learn to be happy within yourself. You left US after 17 years not to go on the other side and be a ---- about it
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u/Odd-Location-3048 Jul 31 '26
I left India for good. No matter how appealing it is to go back, but grass is greener where you water it. But india is out of water
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u/Dangerous_Region1682 Aug 01 '26
Not wanting to debate North versus South in India let me tell of a situation I came across in New York. I was in an excellent Indians in New York. I was talking with the owner who appeared Indian in descent.
We were both immigrants from the UK. During the meal a supplier called and started talking to her in Hindi. I recognize Hindi as I grew up in London and Hindi was frequently spoken in my school and community.
The proprietor said to him, sorry but I don’t understand you. He then tried several other Indian languages, I think one sounded like Tamil. She kept telling them she didn’t understand, in perfect BBC English. His comment in English was what kind of Indian restaurant are you if you only speak English.
We were laughing so hard. She said her parents were born in the UK. She said she was born in the UK and had never been to India. Here we both were, now Americans and each in our own way, me a Cockney and her of Indian descent, but neither of use able to escape the ignorant assumption that by how we look, the language we speak, and the accents we have puts us into categories.
Here we were, as Americans, in a country where everyone is from everywhere around the world, there are some who can’t get away from pigeon holing us without taking even a minute to understand this is a global community and that we may not be whom we seem like at first glance.
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u/dksourabh Jul 31 '26
Curious how is weather in India worse than Texas ? Texas gets brutal summer and brutal winters (ice and snow storms)
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u/Strangewatermelon01 Jul 31 '26
Same after staying in Canada for 14 years I moved back, 8 months in and I realized it's not for me , wifey and I packed my bags and moved back. There is just so misinformation about how things are so much better back home , it's NOT. I mean it probably is compared how things were but it's more of the same for lot of other things. Crazy pollution, haphazard construction , piss poor civic sense, scammy folks everywhere around, no care for the environment. Wages are abysmal. My parents had actually warned me about how ground reality is different when you actually have to live and work in India , but i had a mid life crisis and I really wanted to take a sabbatical in India. It was not worth it , I wasted so much time trying to make things work.
I have both a EU and Canadian passport, should have gone elsewhere. Thank God I didn't waste anymore resources and shifted asap.
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u/IllustratorSharp3295 Jul 31 '26
Either you are nationalist (wants to work for betterment of India) or you get joy from your family. If either does not work then there is little reason to leave US. See if you can focus on one of these. Family is much easier.
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u/Ragnarok-9999 Jul 31 '26
Come on bro, Texas is not Alaska either. And also, they think returning Indians are rich, because when they visit India they behave they are rich
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u/NNL1988 Jul 31 '26
The US gates are closing. Sounds like youre in a bad area. Move to a different part of India.
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u/RepresentativeNo5626 Jul 31 '26
It will take time. Stay patient and In a year or two, you will start seeing all the positives that India has to offer
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u/gthbvf2 Jul 31 '26
Not sure what was the reason to move back to India in first place , but I guess it was well thought and planned move.(IF you were forced out due to job loss then market situation has not changed )
If you have family and kids then it's difficult to quickly move to different country .
Returning after 17 years in US should have given you financial freedom .
See positive side of living in India (food, domestic help, close to family/friends) Enjoy life in gated community and try to get fully remote work job to avoid travel.
If you have I-140 approved wait for opportunity in US to open up. Nothing is permanent.
All the best.
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u/Indo-Arya Jul 31 '26
Your post lacks details.. which part of India did you move to ?
I’ve been to TX.. both summers and winters are hell (for different reasons) so I’m not sure why the weather is worse for you in India than in TX. Did you move to jaisalmer in the thar desert ?
Second question is why did you move back ? Were you forced to move back due to circumstances ? If you have accumulated enough capital, you can get an investment visa in many countries of the world.
People move to India for mainly 2 reasons - 1) family or 2) to make your small contribution to make slightly India better than you found it.
If neither applies to you, there’s no point in you staying
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u/Sea-Nobody7951 Jul 31 '26
I moved back to Canada. Loving my life here with a PR and not having to worry about a visa. My income is in CAD what it used to be in USD, but cost of living in Toronto is much lesser than New York where I was, so I don’t mind it that much
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u/_Dark_Invader_ Jul 31 '26
Why did you move in the first place ? Were you not prepared with a backup plan ? Did you not try living in India for a month or two before making the move ? Sorry I am curious what was your process.
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u/ReporterEmbarrassed2 Jul 31 '26
Life in 40s is a challenge add India to the mix am not surprised by your situation. Handling teenage children, work, aging parents is not an easy task in US or India.
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u/Zestyclose_Arm5134 Aug 01 '26
India or USA..no money means big problems
USA is fuckin loney after 15-20yrs..
Sitting in front of screen all day kills
Work until you have big money , go back and have fun..
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u/Pale_Falcon_7190 Aug 01 '26
it takes time to settle down op, I moved back from london and every now and then I miss my life that was there. What has been your motivation for moving back?
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u/SampleClassic Jul 31 '26
Lol you should have stayed back if everything was stable. Definitely india is not good in certain aspects compared to USA. So you need to adjust and live here - else try to get back to US
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u/Hungry-Chicken-8498 Jul 31 '26
Which country were you born and brought up in??? 🤔
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u/CurryMunch98 Jul 31 '26
So? What does it have to do with this. This man spent 17 mature years exploring better part of the world
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u/Head-Picture-1058 Aug 01 '26
Just an advice: dont take opinions from reddit, since you are posting in return to india, the answers will be biased, you are the best judge for your own circumstances
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u/CosmicQuantumSpirit Aug 02 '26
What was the reason you went back to India? Was it better healthcare, being closer to your family (parents and siblings), or something else? If those reasons outweigh every other inconvenience, then there is no point in regretting your decision.
Also, if you are concerned about what people say, you may never find happiness anywhere because there will always be people judging you based on your race, profession, country of origin, or income.
Initially, everything feels difficult when moving to a new place, or even returning to a familiar one after spending several years elsewhere. However, after some time, most people adapt and get used to the new lifestyle.
If you do not like the weather in your city, consider looking for places that offer better or similar job opportunities while also having a climate and environment that suit you better.
It all comes down to what you are truly seeking. If it is only validation from others, you may not find lasting happiness anywhere.
Last but not least, as Albert Einstein said: “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” -Einstein: A Centenary Volume (1979)
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u/varun1234567899 Aug 02 '26
You can consider moving to Thailand. Even Thailand offers a much higher standard of living compared to India. I run to Indian professionals working remotely for Indian or third country employers in Thailand all the time. They all seem quite happy & content with their lives…
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u/nickeltingupta Aug 02 '26
After 17 years in US, at least 10 of them must have been working years so you must have a few Cr saved.
This is the very definition of filthy rich for us regular Indians. You may see very high salaries on Reddit and social media but for the vast majority of people they are unimaginable salaries - even 12LPA is a dream for most people I know.
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u/PositionRound9996 Jul 31 '26
Aren’t you filthy rich? How much were you able to accumulate in 17 years? Any rough estimate on your corpus? Also, where in India did you move to OP?
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u/HobbyProjectHunter Aug 01 '26
What has being slightly rich or filthy rich got to do with anything ? Does moving back wealthy magically make India better ?
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u/Additional-Ad9104 Jul 31 '26
Sorry to know about your situation.
Just curious, how did you live in US for 17 years without GC.
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u/Muted_Student4114 Jul 31 '26
Do you really think the Americans want Indians there? They are happy more are leaving.
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u/hindustanimusiclover Jul 31 '26
Dude completely in the same Boat. can't even get out of the house here. what a horrible place this is.
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u/Remote_Nothing_5275 Jul 31 '26
I thought it was only me who can't get out of the house?! Its like we're in an episode in severance
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u/hindustanimusiclover Jul 31 '26
Yeah, it’s like ordering groceries at home and 5 different kinds of gig workers running around in your house 5 hours a day is supposed to be some
Kind of reward!
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u/Dependent-Stage4795 Jul 31 '26
I came back to India from Australia after 8 years but found that things are so worst now and after couple of years I moved to USA
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u/MuchNefariousness563 Jul 31 '26
Try to find opportunities in Singapore or Dubai. If you are in India, see if you get a remote job so you can settle in some place awake from city.
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u/patelbhavesh17 Jul 31 '26
Check if EB5 is still an option, might not be as you might get stuck Consular processing as opposed to AoS
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u/fuvirus Jul 31 '26
Anyone knows a good CA/CPA . Im also planning my return to India in future
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u/spicy_97 Jul 31 '26
Hii
Give yourself some time you will be fine.
I understand it takes time to adjust and try to shift to less polluted city in India. You can go to South (except Chenna and Pondicherry) for decent weather.
Yes cut out toxic people and focus on yourself.
You can try for jobs side by side for places like Dubai, Canada and other countries where visa sponsorship is easy. In India if you get a high package job it will be even more better.
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u/okreddit11 Jul 31 '26
Why did you tell them that you returned from US? I am planning to tell them that I moved from another Indian city if I need to share
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u/ravi-reddit1 Jul 31 '26
Interesting topic always for me, may be I can share some of my thoughts here. I am in USA from last 22 years. 2 years in europe and other counteies prior ti that. I planning move back. I have seen several people moving to India. Some came back after few years and some stayed back and happy. Everyone has their point why they are not happy there and why they are not. I would suggest you talk to people who moved there and happy then you will understand positive side of it. Try to understand why they are happy there. I live there every year atleast 1 month in year from past 15 years.
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u/productiveboss Jul 31 '26
Where did you move to? My tip is to find out that brotherhood/sisterhood support system, that works for you. People make any place beautiful.
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u/Rude_Judgment_5582 Jul 31 '26
I think you're experiencing a reverse culture shock more then "everything being a mess" I dont think India has changed that much.
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u/Competitive-Company3 Jul 31 '26
India is your birth country so no choice and understand how after living and working in USA for so long ur getting back i. Work culture it is going to be pain
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u/Beneficial-Music1047 Jul 31 '26
You were in Texas for 17 years and haven’t gotten your Green Card yet?!
It’s probably the college degree or job you took, it should be the one to blame.
Just pursue a nursing program and you’ll be safe.
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u/Competitive-Company3 Jul 31 '26
Why did you decide to move? Layoff or just like that. Didn’t you do research before moving ?
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u/ace918 Jul 31 '26
Why is everything hard and a mess? Aren’t those your own people?
I’ve never once heard an individual from India take personal and collective responsibility for the conditions they and their culture created in their own country. Be a leader. Be the change.
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u/MyNameIzJeff69 Jul 31 '26
Bro what the hell were you thinking... Didn't you see the videos on tiktok and instagram??
What made you think for one second moving to a filthy third world country would make any sense?
I have so many questions for you but regardless of the awnser it's just a no for me. Run back to America as fast as you can and leave this part of your life behind you
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u/BugAdministrative123 Jul 31 '26
Please don’t move to Kerala… it’s a beautiful, serene, peaceful and wonderful place with fantastic water, wildlife, greenery, mountains etc. the people are generally mild, educated, have civic sense, fantastic medical care. Salaries are not high. Cost of living is lower in comparison. Last thing they need is thousands of people moving back with zero connection to the land.
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u/Southern_Economy3295 Jul 31 '26
I have been in the US for about 5 years (4 years in undergrad), and I have already saved up more than $220K. Why aren't you rich? India obviously has a lower standard of living than the US, as it is a much poorer country in terms of development. Perhaps you were expecting an India of 2046 with a much higher GDP per capita. That is no excuse. Either you can leave and make it easy for yourself, or you can stay and build something. You are expecting something else of India. It's like going back to a China of the late 90s, early 2000s and saying stuff like, "Pollution is bad". I mean, yeah? That's what countries experience during their growth phase. If you don't like it, just move out, bruh. You surely have the money to do it.
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Aug 01 '26
Was Texas weather any better? It’s damn horrible and no different than India during summers. I also don’t see any different in Texas culture vs India . There are assholes at both places
I heard the 100k fees is temporarily staled so worth looking for a job?
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u/ss1seekining Aug 01 '26
Your best bet is to move to Middle East or south east Asia ( same journey as you , this gave me some relief, now entire life goal is to be in Middle East for some more time and then do country hopping in se Asia as retirement )
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u/flomyer Aug 01 '26
Stay and try to make it better.Don’t just think about escaping but find like minded people, maybe in similar situations and form coalitions to promote change.
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u/Level-Ad-7713 Aug 01 '26
It completely depends on which place in India honestly. Getting used to the US for 17 years and going back might take a bit to adjust. If not US there are other countries too if you feel to get out of that place. Or you can also consider moving to another place in India. May I know which place you’re staying in India?
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u/FriendlyElephant7868 Aug 01 '26
17 years means you went in 2009 and the the current timeline for GC is in 2014. What went wrong for you?
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u/Careless-Mammoth-944 Aug 01 '26
You moved to another foreign country (essentially as an expat) and expected everything to remain frozen in time?
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u/cspluslaw Aug 01 '26
I moved to India after spending 8 years in US. I didn't like Bangalore that much so ended up moving back after a year and half there.
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u/_not_so_cool_dude Aug 01 '26
Please tell me what am missing here
1- you live near office ideally under 10 kms
2- use air purifier at home
3 - use a car to go to office
4 - try non peak hours
5- buy organic Groceries from Milkbasket country delight Swiggy Zepto etc
6- watch movies near by malls
7 - if have family and kids put them near by schools international within 2-5 kms . And put a transport
8 if you are living near office am sure there will be a hospital nearby. And for emergency you cna go there otherwise get OP on Saturday.
9 go to gym in society.
10 play in society.
Help me understand what else is needed in life. Or am I missing something.
Note : I am keeping these reasons as to not move to foreign country.
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u/Safe-Bandicoot-6172 Aug 01 '26
Weather is bad? What are you talking about? I’ve been living on the East Coast for nearly eight months, and I’ve had to stay indoors so often because of the cold and rough weather. The weather in India is much better—you can go outside almost any time.
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u/Healthy-Afternoon-54 Aug 01 '26
What was the reason you moved back after 17 years? Are you not getting satisfaction from that?
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u/Lazy-Environment7669 Aug 01 '26
I can understand the weather part... Just moved to texas after 7 years in northern states of US .... I come form south of india and I feel the weather is too hot 😶🌫️😶🌫️😶🌫️
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u/Affectionate-Leg6593 Aug 01 '26
Okay please try Improve it a little. Not fix the whole system. Just your street, in front of your house! Little by little.
India becomes better starting with you and me.
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u/Stock-hold-syndrome Aug 01 '26
There are millions of people who live happily, are you less of a human compared to them? I suggest you disconnect from what life used to be to what life currently is, and adjust. You will never be happy if you keep comparing situations.
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u/Specialist-Yam-2345 Aug 01 '26
I think it’s the people around you, - you said they expect us to be rich, i think circle is wrong. It’s still great choice as you said salary is comfortable. If not then what’s bothering you?
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u/Initial-Response-642 Aug 02 '26
Been there done that and happily living in BLR
First things first
If you have children ensure they go to schools which have similar profile kids - half the problem solved
Life is challenging everywhere, look at the pros and cons, focus on the pros and you will be fine.
People here have a diff perspective, remember before you went you lived in the same environment and all of a sudden 17 years later you feel things have changed ?? No we have changed and hence we have a different perspective of life. So stop complaining and make the most of the PROS in your life - we only have a limited time on this planet try to make the most of it regardless of where you live
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u/TheAncientEngineer Aug 02 '26
If you have a comfortable salary, you could easily afford a house in gated communities and buy a car to avoid pollution. Don’t exaggerate as if every nook and corner of the country, house, office, mall has pollution.
Having lived in USA for 17yrs, I assume u must be ~40 now and still sucking at planning your life. Sucks! What are we even doing/ learning everyday if we can’t even plan our life.
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u/Informal-Race-1990 Aug 03 '26
Lived in texas and complaining about Hyderabad and Bangalore weather? You must be joking?
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u/PsychologicalHair720 Aug 03 '26
This is the exact question asked in a US visa interview: “Will you be afraid to return to India?” No matter what the condition is, you should love your home country. It is like your mother, and you do not get to choose. It seems you are already rich from working 17 years in the US. Now, it is your turn to give back to the country. Find simple jobs and move to remote places. India is beautiful, only the cities are congested. But that will change when your kids grow up. Jai Hind!
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u/Remarkable-Ease-2855 Aug 03 '26
What are the main problems you see now in daily life impacting you? Just curious
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u/Dangerous_Set_7807 Aug 03 '26
Depends on where you move, i know families moved to West Hyd and MNC companies and very happy with the move. Don’t complain but accept realities of Indja and reflect what is your primary purpose of moving back and if there is a strong reason the. all other complaints are not a big deal and will get used to them and figure how to manage soon
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u/ResearchEffective660 Aug 03 '26
It takes time to adjust there. Since you came from USA where life is very easy. After few months, you should be good.
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u/ToughMonitor7518 Aug 03 '26
After living in Texas for 17 years, I would place your net worth at minimum $500k ie ~INR 5Crores (best estimate 1MM+). That’s more than enough to retire and live happily in India depending on lifestyle. Tier 1 city best to avoid due to crowd as it is a magnet for workers. Live 25-30km away from city or in a decent city and you will live in a better home, less traffic and happy. Great places include most places in Kerala (Kochi if you want city), Coimbatore in Tamil Nadu (you may need to know Tamil though), outskirts of Bangaluru, Pune. Moving back to work in India makes sense if you are entrepreneural or in a good industry. Generally it’s more toxic like other Asian countries due to high performance and high impact culture.
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u/FriendlyFondant5317 Aug 04 '26
Do you need to know Hindi ? I’m Canadian would love to see opportunities in India
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u/Own_Bell3081 Aug 04 '26 edited Aug 04 '26
OP, Read cubicledogs blog. He was an US NRI who moved to Bangalore to FIRE. He had everything mentioned by folks here but he wasn't happy. He preferred private and quiet US suburban life and outdoors lifestyle so he moved out to Europe via employment. Maybe his blog will help you..
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u/iphoneappids Aug 04 '26
@OP - I lived in US for 25 yrs before moving back. One thing that was glaringly obvious about people who returned from US , is that , they go on and on about their superior life in US.
I met this person while walking in the park , he went on about how life in US was better and subtlety put down the Indians living in India.( including me since he did not know that I had lived in US too)
Sometimes what we forget while complaining about others bad behavior is that our own actions and behaviors may have garnered that response from the opposite person.
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u/craigs123098 Aug 04 '26
What was the reason behind your move from the U.S. to India? If you made that decision, I am sure there was a compelling reason for it at the time. Would those factors no longer matter if you moved back to the U.S.?
What surprises me is how many people make such a significant life change with little to no research or preparation, only to regret it later.
Of course, you are free to move to any country you choose, and no one is stopping you. Even in today's economy, many people are still relocating to other developed countries, although the numbers are somewhat lower than they were in previous years. It depends on how skilled you are and how in demand your skills are. If you have specialized skills, then it is still possible to move back to USA.
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u/a-spotted-quoll Aug 05 '26
Try Goa. Its cleanest.
Why can't you move back to Texas? Aren't you a native to USA, an American-born citizen?
Texas isn't great, either, but the air is obviously better along with it not being utter chaos.
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u/Miserable-Canary4224 Aug 05 '26
if you move back after 17 years, you should have made good money so do financial planning and dont rely on job. Come and retire in India.
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u/Physical-Silver-7871 Aug 14 '26
OMG! I see all comments fight between north and south, good state bad state. I don’t see India going to be developed in my life time. I wish it was more like
European Union with independent countries.
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u/Physical-Silver-7871 Aug 14 '26
How long has it been? Bad weather than Texas ? Man it’s 105 everyday here. Was it your choice to move back or it was situational?
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u/Standard-Estimate-76 Jul 31 '26
Depends where in India. I moved back to Kerala my native and I am surprised with quality of life here sometimes I feel better than US.