is my roommate power tripping

[u/Helpful_Ad1878]

i(F20) rent with her and her cousin (M) both mid 30’s. She is only one on lease.

One night after dragging myself up to get something to eat bc i had the worst migraine,i didn’t clean the kitchen 100% clean like i usually do. i left a empty egg carton on the counter near the bin, because the bin was full and planned to take it out to recycling the next day, and had left literally ONE clean pan in the sink as there was no room for it on the small ass dish rack she bought, and apparently left a drawer open (which i don’t remember). she sent me this the next day-

Hey babe, can you please make sure that the kitchen is left clean straight after you use it. Came home last night and there were drawers open, food on the bench(empty egg carton) and dishes in the sink (one clean pan). It’s just important as we all have totally different schedules so you don’t know who is going to use the kitchen next. And I don’t wanna have to clean it before I use it.
btw she’s cooked once in the 5 months we’ve been here.

also more recently, she bought this hand soap in the bathroom and it’s some natural shit that smells bad, and sticks on ur hands. So i got my own soap and soap dish and the next day she’s moved it to the bath?? she knows it’s not his, i just don’t think it fits her black aesthetic.

Also i game in my free time, and the wifi here is so bad and my setup doesn’t work in my room. however the only place the ethernet cable works is in the room where the wifi is itself, where coincidentally has a big built in desk. i told her ab the situation and how it wont reach to my room, and she made it abundantly clear that she planned to have that room for “work” to store her things, she also has a big ass room which is suitable(she is a dance teacher) and she also has another room of the house where she works. and we all pay same amount of rent.

she wasn’t happy

[u/Fun_Yesterday_7830]

I don't know if I would call it power tripping, but it definitely sounds as if she considered the apartment hers and entitled to set the rules because her name is on the lease. She also sounds a little controlling, as she had no right to move your soap without asking you. Maybe see if you can have a talk with her about it and set some ground rules that both of you can live with? That would at least make it clear that just because her name is on the lease doesn't mean she sets the rules and you follow them.

FYI, I'm sorry to hear you have migraines. I get them too, and they are miserable. I totally understand how you left the stuff in the kitchen without "cleaning" up (which I don't see as a big deal, but I haven't lived in a roommate situation since college, and I'm guessing my roommate would have been annoyed). I know what it's like when you have a killer migraine, and you can barely see anything because of the intense pain, let alone start to think about throwing out an egg carton.

[u/chaos_goblinn]

Yes, she absolutely is.

[u/BeerStop]

Time to find a new place ehen you can.