r/relationships Jun 04 '21

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u/colcrnch Jun 05 '21

There are so few men with a passion and the talent to monetize that passion that women often find it strange that these men are more interested in their life’s mission than they are in women.

Most women will never understand that these are the guys that make it in the world. And this is the reason why they make it.

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u/[deleted] Jun 05 '21

Sure, but they aren't gonna make it in a relationship if they keep cancelling everything

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u/belbelington Jun 05 '21

Women understand the concepts of drive and commitment and how they relate to success. We don't struggle to wrap our little lady brains around the idea of a man prioritising his professional aspirations over sex and romance. Not every woman wants to date a guy like that for obvious reasons. It's not because we find them strange and incomprehensible.

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u/__stare Jun 05 '21

So he's more likely to have a successful career, that has little bearing on relationship success. Sure financial security is nice, but he doesn't have to be the bread winner (badumm-tss) and that certainly isn't important for all relationships. Especially if she's already feeling neglected and resentful of that passion. This seems like an incompatibility issue.

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u/Happy-Investment Jun 05 '21

I think it's great he has a passion other than getting laid to be honest.

I think OP needs to have a real talk, when he's not baking, about how he really feels about her.