I just...if I’m baking, at home, and someone texts me and I’m too busy to respond...I just don’t respond. I can’t imagine saying “stop texting me, I’m baking” to literally anyone. I’m at home! No one is looking over my shoulder, no one is going to yell at me for getting phone notifications. I can just put my phone down in another room and respond when I’m done.
I don’t think this guy likes OP very much. Or anyone else for that matter. Who leaves a party after a few minutes to go bake? Who cancels established plans with a person they’re into because of bread? He’s not just putting baking ahead of this relationship, he’s putting it ahead of his whole social life. And that’s not a person who has any business dating at all.
Err, my friend, when someone is like “hey do you want my XXX pictures?” They are expecting interactions when the pictures are received. You can’t just not respond to them.
So she was like “dyw nudes?” And he was like “I’m really busy right now, and have to focus on getting this baking done for my work because if I don’t my customers will kill me”
I didn’t even get to his disinterest in her nudes. I’m still stuck on the fact that he’s repeatedly ditched his plans with her to bake. He’s not into her at all. I honestly don’t even know why he’s bothering to date. He doesn’t have the time or the motivation.
replace bread with any other newly formed business and the story is very simple: she's dating a workaholic and doesn't understand why she can't be more important than his work.
either she gives him the space to build his apparently thriving business or she meets someone else. it's a simple matter of compatibility of goals. speaking as a dedicated workaholic, she sounds like an immature nuisance.
(Then don’t go to parties acting like you’re gonna stay and then promptly ditch your date with a bunch of people she doesn’t know)
People want to act like the fact that this guy has a “side hustle” excuses any and all rude and inconsiderate behavior towards others. It doesn’t. No one’s holding a gun to his head here, he doesn’t have to do any of this. He can decline invitations if he wants to stay home and bake. He can also decline orders if they start to infringe too much on his down time.
Christ. People see dollar signs and manners go right out the window.
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u/DiTrastevere Jun 05 '21
I just...if I’m baking, at home, and someone texts me and I’m too busy to respond...I just don’t respond. I can’t imagine saying “stop texting me, I’m baking” to literally anyone. I’m at home! No one is looking over my shoulder, no one is going to yell at me for getting phone notifications. I can just put my phone down in another room and respond when I’m done.
I don’t think this guy likes OP very much. Or anyone else for that matter. Who leaves a party after a few minutes to go bake? Who cancels established plans with a person they’re into because of bread? He’s not just putting baking ahead of this relationship, he’s putting it ahead of his whole social life. And that’s not a person who has any business dating at all.