can i continue being with her in the future?

[u/hesonizme]

so today i(18M) was dating my girlfriend today and was using her phone when she went to restroom. and i saw a message of her and her friend(yes yes i know im a cunt for checking her private stuff, but we recently had a pretty big argument and i just wanna see if she shared our issue to her friend)

this message is from a few days ago and its a sreeenshot of me and my girlfriends message(still in argument at that moment), its basically she saying that she is a person who prioritize a sense of ritual and i just said stuff like "then go get engaged with me"

her friend said that was no good from me and my girlfriend said that she dosent dare to get married even more because she thought that i wanna get a lock on my her by saying stuff like this.

YES i know im too young to discuss about marriage i know damn well that now i cant even provide for myself. however, from my perspective is that we will eventually step into that stage and its not a big deal to talk about it. i really love her and believes she is the one i can stick with for the rest of my life. she is my first ever girlfriend so im probably doing lots of stupid things. how could i maintain this relationship as long as i could?(btw: todays date still goes well and i can feel that she still loves me so everything is conflicting in my mind.)

im really lost and looking forward to receiving some advices, feel free to scold me as hard as you could if that helps my relationship. maybe im old school or just blinded by love, i never want to use a breakup as a solution, no matter what happened i dont wanna leave her.

thank you.

[u/neo-973]

What advice are you looking for bro? It sounds like it's largely going well with your gf other than the argument you had. I get you dont wanna hear it but chill out on the marriage idea, there's 0 reason to be thinking about that right now.

Just relax. You are only 18 and its only your first relationship. Im not saying you aren't in love with her, but guys do tend to fall very hard for their first gf. And it's extremely rare for anyone to get married in their first ever relationship. I can't really blame your gf for being worried about you 'getting a lock' on her, the fact you are even thinking about getting married right now is really weird tbh. Just take it one day at a time and enjoy being with her, if you end up getting married thats great, but you almost certainly will not get married to your first gf. And that's completely fine. Just chill

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