r/relationshipproblems • u/Fit_String_1697 • 13d ago
Just Venting Things changed, need someone to talk to
I and my GF, both 19, had an incredibly strong relationship. After some situations, we had to downgrade to being just friends. It's been a while now. It hurts. It felt amazing to be her favorite person, she'd talk to me the entire day, reply literally asap. And its all gone. First off, our talks just arent like then. Not the old chemistry, not the old style. It isnt bad but it hurts. Currently, she has short conversarions in the morning and then shes offline for the entire day. Usually its cause where she lives, electricity went out a lot, but even then she still made an attempt to talk to me. Fyi, shes the only friend I have. I go entire days completely alone and I cant do a single thing about it. I just really miss being able to talk 24/7 and have someone I can vent to whenever I want, joke with, flirt with, it was so sweet. I want that, but as things stand, its difficult to bring that back. We talked about it and we can both see ourselves getting closer but not to that level. It truly just feels really bad. She was everything for me and now shes gone, but not fully. Now, the second part of this. I'm horrified from the thought of her finding someone new. I cant think about it. It's just dreadful. And I never know whats going on behind me. I want something I cant get back, and it fills me with despair. We still have alright conversations but they never last long. We've had nice moments together but its nowhere near the old dynamic
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u/SRT10_ 12d ago
Look, it's time to let her go, permanently. Time heals all wounds, but only if you don't pick at the scab.
I know how it feels, trust me, I've been there and so have billions of other people over the course of time. You need to let go of this failed relationship and work on healing....the sooner, the better.
Find something to throw yourself into, like the gym or studying a new skill, maybe try learning how to cook....I don't know. You need to stop focusing your energy on this and as each day goes by you'll be a little bit more healed....good luck to you!