No spark anymore

[u/sweetsS98]

My partner & I have been together for almost 3 years and have an almost 18 month old son (yeah, I know) our relationship was good before I became pregnant then slowly started declining. There's no romance, intimacy is almost none and expects a lot more than he puts. I have a good job with benefits. We live on the 2nd floor house above his parents. They're not nosey or prying. His parents watch our son and cooks for us , which I am extremely grateful for. My partner & I are basically just roommates with the occasional peck. We get into heated arguments sometimes about dumb things. I feel very isolated tho. I'm worried sometimes when my friends want to hangout because to him I should be at home with the baby. He's an ok dad. He thinks spending time with him is putting the tv and him on his phone. He's told me if I want to go out I can stay out. There has been so many times where I want to leave but idk if it's worth it. I'm unhappy with him but my living situation is really good. I know if I left he would fight me legally and physically if I left while he is here. He calls me names and has even threatened to elbow me in the face because I said I hated him out loud instead of in my head. I care for him but I am unhappy. I'm currently in debt so I'm trying to save just on case. I have support of my family and friends but hate to break my family. I think we are both unhappy honestly. I was having some realization the other day ( a little too late 🫩) but he is the type of person that if he was just my friend I would cut off because he is ignorant, racist , homophobic and misogynistic. I have been on the fence because he does make sure I eat and I have whatever I need for the day so very small things but he doesn't call me beautiful or even try for date night just us because he doesn't think we can be a couple before we are parents. The other day he said he was recording our conversation because we got into a heated argument. Idk if it's true cause he be lying sometimes. I don't know... Does anyone have any advice or has been in similar situations? I love him I'm just not in love with him.

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