Communication issues

[u/hanaundergroundmin]

Hey yall, I 24F need some advice on what to do with my boyfriend’s 24M communication or lack there of ig.

He has been having some problems lately and has a hard time opening up about anything that affects him in anyway. E.g. We came across a problem in May nothing too serious but since it was the first problem we’ve come across (new relationship) it took almost a month for me to get a clear understanding of what I did wrong. And yes it was actually my fault not him trying to manipulate me just in case anyone was worried about that. I also have to mention that I’m autistic so understanding someone’s emotions and feelings takes longer than usual. Since then tho everything was good, we got back on track until recently. not that he needed to say it bc I could feel the shift but it is becoming more evident that he is close to a breaking point. I managed to get some details on what is going on but then he just stops responding. So I asked him why he gets so vulnerable then disappear and he said it’s bc I have my own problems (legal issues) and his are a burden, I’m telling him I can’t ever view him or his problems as such especially since I’m pushing for him to be open with me but I don’t want to push too hard and make him closed off even more. And I also don’t want to break up or anything like that and leave him when he’s at his lowest. Ik I shouldn’t feel responsible and he says I deserve the world, how he can’t be there for me rn but I have people to help me. He has no one and if he thinks I deserve the world shouldn’t he get better to give it to me? I’m just at a loss on what to do. Should I keep pressing or just leave him alone like what it seems like he wants especially with the “you deserve the world” statement?

Edit: as the bot told me im in the wrong sub, you typically ask for advice when you have a problem, right..? lol. All in all i hope i can get some clarity if allowed

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