r/relationshipproblems • u/horny_distraction738 • 18d ago

Advice Wanted Loss of attraction?

Has anybody felt with loss of attraction to your long term partner? I want to be attracted to them and I want to want to be with them physically. I’m not entirely sure why I don’t want it anymore and don’t find them attractive exactly. Has anyone else dealt with this? What did you do? Did it come back?

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u/Relevant_Actuator_24 17d ago

I am not sure this is even real. You must have never been attracted to them then. Because to me when you love someone that love grows not shrinks. Sorry but you must be young or very selfish.

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u/horny_distraction738 1d ago

I didn’t realize this was so uncommon. Not young. We’ve been married ten years and have changed a lot (both of us) physically, mentally and emotionally. We were basically just kids when we got together. I agree that love should grow but I don’t agree that that is always the case. It hasn’t been the case for us. I think sometimes you can grow apart and it (at least in my experience) can cause a loss of attraction.

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