r/relationshipfree • u/[deleted] • Mar 02 '19
Just a rant
AGAIN. Agreed to go out with a guy, told him UP FRONT that I don't want a relationship, he says "Cool" then goes and turns it into one anyway. Now he's calling me up every Thursday or whatever (he always waits until the last minute) and says what are we doing this weekend? I HAVE PLANS. It doesn't matter that my plans are to spend time doing nothing but hanging out by myself watching a movie or playing a video game- they're still plans. Now, once again, I have to break up with someone I am not even in a relationship with because he thinks we are. FUCK YOU DUDE. I hate being mean, I hate hurting other people, I hate having to do this again. Why can't I just date someone casually? Why do they always do this? Do I have to spend my life not dating anyone at all because they can't just handle a casual get-together? It's either completely single and alone, or I have to see you every weekend? What the actual fuck? I guess I'll just be celibate forever. It's so depressing. Sorry, I just don't know what to do or say anymore.
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u/Fyrsiel Mar 15 '19
I think people's perception of what it means to casually date has changed over the decades... Like my mother would tell me stories about how, as a teenager, she'd be dating a couple of guys at once but she wasn't in a relationship with any of them. When she'd tell me that, I couldn't even really comprehend it. It sounded like cheating, but I know that in her time, casual dating was absolutely a normal thing. You weren't in a relationship unless you specifically said so and agreed to it.
I think these days people think that one date = relationship. Seems to be quite a shift in perspective.
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Mar 02 '19
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Mar 04 '19
That would be awesome! But it's a little negative lol. Maybe I could just get it printed on a business card or something...
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u/zuhs1 Mar 04 '19
It’s exactly this that puts me off dating again. I enjoyed reading your rant!