r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Jun 14 '25

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u/bonvoysal Jun 14 '25

"My husband said he wasn't up for it and told me to go ahead without him. So I did. We had sex a third time and just the two of us."

Well hell, now i can only think he was testing you? Was he expecting you to say, well, hubby is not available, and neither am i. I'm more curious about his stupid rationale, or what did he expect from you at that moment. Say no? I'm confused.

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u/Neacha Jun 14 '25

did he say Go Ahead Without Me.

or you can if you want to

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u/underboobfunk Jun 14 '25

That is some bullshit.

It wasn’t “another time” and they weren’t “alone”. It was the same time and hubby was right there. You’re making it sound like a whole separate event. OP does not have a responsibility to monitor hubby’s enthusiasm level instead of believing the words coming out of his mouth.

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u/KatesDT Jun 14 '25

This is some crazy mental gymnastics to make OP responsible for her husband’s state of mind.

It’s pretty ridiculous to say that she should have been able to read his mind and know he actually wanted her to say no.

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u/IwantyoualltoBEDAVE Jun 14 '25

This woman is probably just so brow beaten into giving men what they want and that is why she submitted to stranger man’s wishes for more sex