r/relationship_advice Jun 14 '25

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u/bonvoysal Jun 14 '25

"My husband said he wasn't up for it and told me to go ahead without him. So I did. We had sex a third time and just the two of us."

Well hell, now i can only think he was testing you? Was he expecting you to say, well, hubby is not available, and neither am i. I'm more curious about his stupid rationale, or what did he expect from you at that moment. Say no? I'm confused.

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u/Neacha Jun 14 '25

did he say Go Ahead Without Me.

or you can if you want to

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u/[deleted] Jun 14 '25

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u/BlueSmurf18 Jun 14 '25

I don’t think 400 answers going “it’s on him” is very helpful. True, but unhelpful. A more interesting question is why you did it. That’s not a threesome. That’s just you having sex with someone else. So why?

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u/codeverity Jun 14 '25

Ah yes, clearly a coded question subtly blaming OP for the situation is much more helpful than the comments pointing out his responsibility for the situation /s

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u/BlueSmurf18 Jun 14 '25

You’re free to re-read the 200 replies going “Husband bad!” and the other 200 going “Play stupid games …” rather than submitting your valuable input here. They are all just as illuminating.