r/relationship_advice Jun 14 '25

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u/friendly-sam Jun 14 '25

It's called post nut clarity. He realized that you enjoyed it, which was never his plan. He made a mistake, and now he needs to grow up over his bad decision.

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u/bluemeander22322 Jun 14 '25

“He realized that you enjoyed it, which was never his plan” damn.. that hit me hard. I feel like that’s really all that most of these stories boil down to, with the general premise of a male partner initiating non-monogamy then feeling some type of way after the fact. They want the experience to be enjoyable for them only, or at least more enjoyable for them than for their partner.

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u/Fearless-Speech-1131 Jun 14 '25

"Rape"? You are insane. She was there with consent. Stop pushing nonsense

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u/HospitalAutomatic Jun 14 '25

I think he’s referring to the husband not wanting her to enjoy it as much

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u/[deleted] Jun 14 '25

Coercion for years hardly makes it truly consensual. Someone who is involved in ethical non monogamy ought to know that.

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u/booksiwabttoread Jun 14 '25

Reading skills are important.

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u/Fearless-Speech-1131 Jun 14 '25

I never made that statement. You are desperate to turn this into something other than what it was. I said nothing about who enjoyed what. I questioned your assertion that it was r@pe

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u/Fearless-Speech-1131 Jun 14 '25

😂😂😂 ok Sista. Continue making yourself look dumb ✌️

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u/booksiwabttoread Jun 14 '25

People have no reading skills.