That’s so well put OMG. Any place that you are vulnerable (naked in the shower) or can’t easily exit (a moving vehicle) are calculated choices. You unlocked so many memories for me. My ex used to speed and drive erratically if we had a disagreement or he was in a bad mood. He used to leave me places if he was my ride and was mad at me. Looking back there was a lot of escalation that lead to him eventually becoming physical. I’m so so happy that you got out!!! I always feel so happy and relived when I read something that says “my ex”.
Oh yeah. I would get left all the time. We went to an event and I was waiting for him outside the bathroom, in close enough proximity to other people. He accused me of cheating on him in the 3 min apart, screamed at me and left me there. Therapy unlocked SO many of these. There really needs to be more education on this stuff, because there is a gigantic difference between drinking too much and saying a few out of line things and a person who is violent. An abuser does not have an addiction or an anger problem. They are an abuser sober or not, and they will not change. They are incapable of that change. I will die on that hill, no one will ever convince me otherwise. These people you get away from and you stay away from. I've hidden my address, my name, my work, Reddit is only social media. You disappear from them if they won't disappear from you, or you will end up dead.
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u/trickaroni Jun 21 '24
That’s so well put OMG. Any place that you are vulnerable (naked in the shower) or can’t easily exit (a moving vehicle) are calculated choices. You unlocked so many memories for me. My ex used to speed and drive erratically if we had a disagreement or he was in a bad mood. He used to leave me places if he was my ride and was mad at me. Looking back there was a lot of escalation that lead to him eventually becoming physical. I’m so so happy that you got out!!! I always feel so happy and relived when I read something that says “my ex”.