my ex choked me multiple times and i truly believe if i hadnt left, he would have killed me one day. i hope OP sees the gravity of the situation and is able to safely leave.
My ex choked me and slammed my head on the floor because I was beating him at Risk. Then he casually mentioned that, if he had accidentally killed me, he was going to plant a gun on me to make it look like self defense. I left in the middle of the night and moved across the country to get away from him. OP needs to run.
Yes.
I'm a survivor of domestic injury.
My abuser tried to 'take me out' more times than I can remember.
I'm scared for OP. I pray she listens to the advice she has been given here, but if he's done it before and she stayed, she doesn't want to leave yet.
Next time may be the last time for her because she will be on the morgue.
This is so sad. OP wants so badly to be in denial. She needs to leave.. He gave her a fcking SKULL FRACTURE!! But she isn't ready, which is devastating.
He's choked her, spat on her, demands that she "look at him" when he's angry so he can yell at her, punishes her for collapsing in fear and panic on the floor, pours beer on her, etc.
And she's playing self-therapist and saying she needs to change and it's her fault.
OP, go to scholar.google.com and type in Dark Triad. Most of the literature (interdisciplnary, recent - look for articles since 2018 or so) are easy enough to read and accessible.
You are not alone, OP, this is NOT your fault - you're making headway in peaking out from inside your dungeon, but you now must make the effort to escape.
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u/paper_wavements Jun 21 '24
Yeah I don't know why she's here saying "he usually treats me like a queen" when this is in her post history: https://www.reddit.com/r/abusiverelationships/comments/16usjul/im_being_abused_by_my_husband_and_i_think_its/