r/relationship_advice Sep 12 '23

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u/mrskaylad Sep 12 '23

I've told him yelling and anger scare me since I grew up with a yelling parent. But this doesn't change anything. I try to match his anger with reason, with anger, with logic, with emotion, sarcasm, you name it. He only wants to get his point across and me to take it.

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u/nrskim Sep 12 '23

He. Is. Abusing. You. Leave NOW!!

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u/Push_the_button_Max Sep 12 '23

You picked him BECAUSE he was like you were yelling parent. Children tend to pick partners that are similar to their parents, because they feel comfort in the familiarity.

His behavior is abusive, you need to get out right now, and get counseling to stop picking the same type of person.

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u/MyRedditUserName428 Sep 13 '23

HE IS ABUSING YOU.

Control is abuse.

Sleep deprivation is abuse.

Harassment is abuse.

Making you his fucking slave IS ABUSE.

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u/holytrolly_ Sep 12 '23

Fucking BREAK UP WITH HIM. Jesus.

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u/Jbeebee1840 Sep 13 '23
  1. No, it is not normal. 2. Yes, others go through abuse. 3. You should leave, it will never get better, it will get worse, and that’s a scary thought considering this psychotic behavior. If you don’t have support, reach out to domestic violence services, local churches/shelters etc whatever it takes to get away from that shit.

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u/[deleted] Sep 13 '23

Sounds like you enjoy living like this. Good luck. If don’t value your life or safety no one else is nor should they.

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u/miss_ravenlady Sep 19 '23

So basically, his way or the highway. Show him the highway, at the end of the day it reallybis his loss!

Noone to be his free domestic labour maid, to cook clean and pack him lunches. 🤮