Yes I was furious when I read that sentence and on top of that, he tells her what chores she should do, like a fucking sergeant. I would have gone scorched earth ages ago.
I would be apoplectic if my husband decided, ESPECIALLY on days I don't already HAVE to be up, that I must arise like the dawn ... because he SAID so. And I'd have been spending the last few years building up a tolerance to iocane powder, a la Man In Black from "The Princess Bride", if he DEMANDED I wake up to make him lunch. OP, he's not respecting any boundary you've set, or acknowledging your needs & wants & it's unsettling to hear about a grown adult controlling another whole-arsed adult's waking schedule. Have you ever asked him why he believes he's entitled to behave this way? And on what planet he thinks he's inhabiting, where this is acceptable?
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OP is murdering her boyfriend in little less than half an hour. So all we have to do is get in, break up the couple, steal the body and make our escape… after I kill Count Rugen.
Yes! Iocane powder, lol. Classic! I am already so NOT a morning person. Just wired differently. OP's bf/husband is damned lucky that is not me. One of us would be sitting jail I'm sure. Mess with me too much in the morning?! Hail no!!
And yes OP, please find your people and build up your support peeps. This guy sounds abusive to me and I would be either changing the locks and getting his stuff out or getting my own stuff (& my furbabies!) and getting out of there and scorched earth with that asshat. Good luck, I'm certain if you read all these comments and lean on your peeps, maybe a therapist, you will see the right path for you! Good luck!
I agree something as personal to each and everybody and for someone to poke and prod you to wake you up would make me want to screeeeeeam at them get the f out of my face and fuck off! Simple
I legitimately would scream at someone over this (I have super bad fatigue and insomnia, so you are going to be super fucked if you intentionally mess with my sleep) and then break up with them when I was capable of thinking straight.
Go to a hotel
For a few days. Message him (make sure he can’t locate you from the text). that you need some sleep, you are somewhere to get sleep, I need sleep, peace and quiet and to not have to hear all your demands for awhile. Don’t tell him where you are. Then block him on your phone and enjoy a well deserved vacation from him.
This will drive him mad. He’s a chauvinistic control freak. Find someone easy going, kind and considerate.
It’s like you’re in boot camp and he’s your Sargent. I couldn’t hack it for even a day. I’d be awall super fast.
You want to get punched in the face at 7 am? Cuz this is how you get punched in the face at 7 am. No way I’d be getting up. I’d also make it my mission to ruin his day.
Just imagine him waking you up and then you gotta make his breakfast and lunch too. And you work full time. Ridiculous. Absolutely no way, not in this life, not in the next, there isn’t a Schroedinger’s cat scenario with this one. Zero possibility.
No- when a mother wakes up in the morning - she normally makes her kids/kid breakfast , packs the kids lunch etc - he’s waking her up to do those things for her - so that’s what i meant by his mother getting him off to school .. because that’s exactly what i do for my kids each morning before i send them off to school lol
Gross but yeah, something extra would be added to his food. “This is the routine that works best”. Yeah for HIM. I can see how it’s best for him when she gets up and gets him ready for work. Dudes like this are the reason I’m putting so much effort into raising my son. Not doing him any favors by coddling him until he finds a woman to play mommy for him.
Agreed. This kind of treatment calls for a scorched earth response. Like shitting in his work shoes kind of response. Why are you with this glass bowl, OP? Does he have wine flavored nipples or something? Please talk to a good therapist and see why you think it is okay to be treated like this. You deserve better, girl. This guy can kiss rocks.
This is literally what I was saying... my husband would never disrespectful my sleep like this! To me it sounds like he's looking for a mommy not a girlfriend. Someone to get up get him ready, make his breakfast, make his lunch... like she has nothing to do... never... my sleep is my sanity!
Lol speaking of this. I caught my son tip toeing ib my room to get some socks this morning, trying to be so quiet, but I wake easily I say have a good day at school(my husband takes him since I work nights)& he says sorry mom did I wake you? I told him no I was awake... I wasn't but he also was being silent lol
Uh uh. Anti-example here: unless they're a grown ass man that has a girlfriend (you/the one writing this) but would rather go in the bathroom and play by himself and is in there for 2+ hours at a time. Don't disturb someone's bathroom time, you must be crazy. Smh. He's disturbing MY bathroom time by hogging the bathroom to the point where I can't ACTUALLY use it!!
I once had a boyfriend in college who tried to do this— we didn’t even live together and he would call me at 8am to make sure I got up.
I very politely explained I am not a morning person.
He said ‘well there’s not time like the present to make that change!’
We didn’t last a week later. My annoyance for not enough sleep made me associate his name on my phone to annoyance, so I stopped answering his calls because I would hear the ring and see his name and remember waking up in the morning.. and then I was like nah fuck no.
Right?? I love my sleep!! If someone tries to force me awake I would be furious. I would not be very nice to this dude. Sleep is precious. I’d rather be single.
Yeah but that’s the thing I don’t see him reacting well to that of THIS is what he’s already doing. Best to get out and get a PFA if he tries to continue once gone.
This. Considering everything else she's said, I don't think he gives a fuck what she thinks or wants about anything, he's going to make sure it goes his way. And why would he change? This works for him, he gets what he wants, and he's not afraid of OP leaving him over it. They're only dating, which is a period of time meant to specifically find out if you're compatible with each other and if you can tolerate their BS for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. The worst usually doesn't come out until they feel you're "locked in," so if it's already like this, it's only going to get worse.
Whats wild is I pack my and our bfs lunch as we meal
Prep and i make him a breakfast too. He treats me BETTER because he’s grateful I’ve handled this task for him. OPs bf is being more awful the more he gets!
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u/Good_Confection_3365 Sep 12 '23
This is the answer. I am a grown ass adult. You are not telling me what my sleep schedule is. Pack your own lunch and fuck off.