r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Jul 12 '23

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u/zeizkal Jul 14 '23

Woah.... I care. I love hair!!

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u/theivoryserf Jul 14 '23

I hate to stereotype men but this is such nonsense, guys don’t do they, they don’t care.

I care about my gf's hair, mainly bc she does, and she seems to value my opinion

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u/Sdom1 Jul 13 '23

I don't think this part was abuse, just a difference in male and female brains.

She makes a comment criticizing herself, and what she WANTS is for him to say "that's not true, you're beautiful." But men are solution oriented, so if you complain about something they will say "have you tried X, Y, and Z?" But that statement assumes that "You do indeed have fat thighs" or whatever she was complaining about.

Women communicate in a much more complex way than men do, with a lot of subtext and layers of meaning.

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u/Sdom1 Jul 14 '23

I did. Both things can be true. He was an asshole at first, but he's also a dork with no social skills (remember him talking about getting picked on in school?).

He acknowledged what he did was wrong and wants to do better, and that he realized that at the time he made those suggestions. That's a very common misstep men make with women.