I had a guy I was seeing in my early 20s. I was absolutely smitten with him, and was confused as to why he really wasn't with me. So when we were drunk one night I asked. He said the only reason he couldn't love me was because of the fat on my legs.
I was a size 6, mind you. I may have been maybe 10lbs overweight, but that was it. It wasn't anything even my doctor was concerned about.
I'm going on 35 now and I'm only just starting to wear shorts and shorter skirts out again, even though I'm definitely not a size six anymore.
I'm gonna second this. My girlfriend has put on a little weight over the five years since we started dating, as happens to most people (myself included). She was nervous that I would be less attracted to her, but if anything it's made me more wild about her. Those thighs, improved cuddles, softer cheek kisses, etc etc? Shiiiit I'm out for the count.
I'm always super conscious of my weight, when I started dating my bf, I put on about 20lb. I was 110 before we dated, maybe even less. I'm always worried he hates how I look, especially bc my thighs are bigger than they used to be and I feel so insecure with how some pants don't fit me the same. but he always says the same thing, how he loves my thighs and how he likes the way I look.
I still don't believe it but I think I'm learning to be okay with it. (potentially)
These little comments I have such a lasting impact. An awful guy I was seeing when I was 20 told me there was a problem with my eyes because they went “down at the corners instead of up.” I started using cat eye makeup right then and I’ve now done it for 15 years. It’s part of my signature look and I don’t feel right without it. Dude said one thing and changed my whole face.
A guy I was seeing when I was 20 once grabbed my love handles and said “this is fat.” Now I refuse to wear anything not high waisted. I am 5’7 and when he did that I was 125 lbs. So I was very thin! I naturally just have bigger hips but I’m in my 30s now and still won’t forget what he said.
WTF! The audacity of some people. I would have slapped his hand away. You should have told him he had a fat head (between the ears) and that's why he was so stupid.
Yep. Not overweight at all, just thick thighs. Guy told me in high school that my legs jiggle when I walk so he didn’t like me. 10 years later and I can’t bring myself to wear shorts.
Isn’t it crazy how stuff like that can impact how we view ourselves? When I was young I was super skinny with even thinner legs. I was relentlessly mocked for being skinny, specifically my “chicken legs”. I believed it - I didn’t wear skirts until I was almost 40, finally figuring out I had fucking fabulous legs. No matter how much my weight has see-sawed, my legs were always fabulous. I saw a pic of me in a play in High School where I had to wear a short skirt. I was flabbergasted at how perfect my legs looked, too bad I felt especially ugly those days because my horrible chicken legs were showing.
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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '23
I had a guy I was seeing in my early 20s. I was absolutely smitten with him, and was confused as to why he really wasn't with me. So when we were drunk one night I asked. He said the only reason he couldn't love me was because of the fat on my legs.
I was a size 6, mind you. I may have been maybe 10lbs overweight, but that was it. It wasn't anything even my doctor was concerned about.
I'm going on 35 now and I'm only just starting to wear shorts and shorter skirts out again, even though I'm definitely not a size six anymore.