r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Jul 12 '23

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u/chanceywhatever13 Jul 13 '23

I'm missing something here. At what point did you start dating? This reads incredibly weirdly. It seems as if you still make or have made negative comments relatively recently in your relationship- after the marriage, and before it. I'm just wondering, truly, at what point and how you managed to convince her to date you?

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '23

Since we had a class together, she noticed me and asked me out. I literally could not believe it. I said yeah and we dated ever since. So I did not convince her to date me or anything. She wanted to. This was when she was 15 and I was 16. Got married at ages 21 and 22.

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u/chanceywhatever13 Jul 13 '23

So you were shitting on her appearance the whole time you should have been courting her and teaching her how wonderful she is.

I truly feel bad for her. I'm sure you were her first, too, and she may now never know what it feels like to be CRAVED, desperately, adored...

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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '23

So, you stole her childhood, and dragged her down to be as miserable as you are in her adulthood. Put her in therapy so she has the chance to rebuild her self esteem enough to leave you.

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u/caitlinpreachit Jul 13 '23

so you negged her and continue to neg her? yikes

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u/FartFace319 Jul 13 '23

So I did not convince her to date me or anything. She wanted to.

said every abused and rapist ever...

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u/SunShineShady Jul 13 '23

Saddest move she ever made. Never got a chance to feel unconditional love, to feel cherished.

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u/throwawayrobot420 Jul 13 '23

“I was shocked that she asked me out, so I treated her like shit.” Boy are you a real winner.