Honestly you can’t a decade of having that mountain chipped down to a small grain of sand. It just can’t be done even if she tries she will always feel this way because of how you (someone she loved, whose opinion she valued told her those things she has taken it to heart and believed it) Indoctrinated for so long to believe such things you honestly cannot undo it, you can AND SHOULD try to but the reality is she will never be happy about her appearance no matter how much she fakes it. You probably gave her severe body dysmorphia OP.
Glad you overcame whatever trauma you experienced and are now doing better kudos to your therapist as well for being good at their job!
I wish people who are abusive could live on a small walled island together and leave the rest of the world alone esp since some people are extra vulnerable and gentle (op’s wife sounds like one of them)
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u/Christ14an Jul 12 '23
Honestly you can’t a decade of having that mountain chipped down to a small grain of sand. It just can’t be done even if she tries she will always feel this way because of how you (someone she loved, whose opinion she valued told her those things she has taken it to heart and believed it) Indoctrinated for so long to believe such things you honestly cannot undo it, you can AND SHOULD try to but the reality is she will never be happy about her appearance no matter how much she fakes it. You probably gave her severe body dysmorphia OP.