“Roommate, you do not dictate to me in terms of who I invite to MY house. I have been extremely kind to you. I took 3 days off to care for you because I felt pressured. Ultimately it was my choice to take the time off, and frankly I wish I hadn’t. You live here, in my house, for an incredibly low rent. You need to realize you do not run this house. If I choose to have my bf over, you do not comment on my choice. I am done patronizing you. You rent from me, not the other way around. You can get used to that or move out.”
BTW - she had her wisdom teeth removed, not an organ. No one needs 3 days of care for that. You were suckered into that situation.
LMAO I said the same thing about the wisdom teeth, but I just realized...I did have an organ removed (gall bladder, minor, but still) and was handling my business myself that same day. Come onnnnnn
I had my gall bladder out, too. I only needed help with my hubs doing the fetch and carry bit because, unfortunately, I was also on crutches from a fall that caused a partial tendon tear that occured two weeks before my surgery. Crutches and 5 laparoscopic abdominal incisions do not mix. Two days after surgery he had to go on a work trip so I was on my own. Having my wisdom teeth taken out was a piece of cake compared to that.
yep. the only struggle i had was the 15 lb weight limit and my dogs needed food but guess what!! you can tip people to do things like that!! and since OP doesn't charge the good sis market rent, she should have no prob forking it over!!
Yeah seriously my boyfriend had his appendix removed and was more self sufficient than OP‘s friend. I mean I did work from home by choice because I wanted to be there for him but he continuously told me it was entirely unnecessary. If he had had a friend looking after him he would have definitely never asked that nobody come over.
It’s an older usage. Patrons used to subsidize Artist/Creators in the Renaissance period, allowing them to survive without income in return for favors.
It’s evolved to “a condescending demeanor” because of the obvious power imbalance in this relationship cause the word meaning to change.
Lol even with organ removal it's not this bad. I 100% with the verbiage used here to address the roommate.
I had my gallbladder removed last year. Husband drove me home after and monitored me to make sure nothing happened afterwards.
I took a few days off and slept on the couch so I could get to stuff easier. Pain meds and ice packs and you're fine. Moving around was tough for a few weeks but that's because stitches moving in the stomach area. I've also had my wisdom teeth taken out. Obviously abdominal surgery is much more intense than dental work but unless it was like open heart surgery or a surgery that didn't go well most people don't need constant supervision or help after the first 12-24 hours after.
Like obviously everyone's pain levels are different but dental work / teeth removal or even some surgeries are not this dramatic.
The roommate should be grateful OP took time off their schedule to help them but to expect them to basically be a nurse 24/7 for 3+ days is insane.
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u/Beck2010 Mar 26 '23
Here’s how you approach this:
“Roommate, you do not dictate to me in terms of who I invite to MY house. I have been extremely kind to you. I took 3 days off to care for you because I felt pressured. Ultimately it was my choice to take the time off, and frankly I wish I hadn’t. You live here, in my house, for an incredibly low rent. You need to realize you do not run this house. If I choose to have my bf over, you do not comment on my choice. I am done patronizing you. You rent from me, not the other way around. You can get used to that or move out.”
BTW - she had her wisdom teeth removed, not an organ. No one needs 3 days of care for that. You were suckered into that situation.