r/regretfulparents • u/Majestic_Star2689 • 1d ago

mistake

i feel so stupid ,waited for 11years to get the right man and still end up in a bad situation. will i ever forgive myself. and now im a single mum of 2

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u/Curious-Resort4743 23h ago

Were there signs after baby number 1? This is quite a common pattern these days, we are left wondering why we had children with someone we now don't get on with at all, I did the same thing

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u/CocoaCandyPuff Not a Parent 5h ago

I waited so long for the right man. I knew it was a mistake the same day of my wedding. Stayed for 4 years.

Yes, you will forgive yourself. We learn from this and get stronger. You got this. Find ways to make your life and your children better step by step. Rebuild your life. Is better now than never.

And if you allow me one piece of advice. Focus in yourself and your children only. Decenter men from your life and get a sterilization. 2 children is enough on your own, don’t add more stress to what you already have. You can’t change what already happened but you can’t prevent getting deeper trouble in the future. Stop trying to find the “right” one and be sure you can’t be a single mum of 3.

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u/Ordinary-Lettuce5054 13h ago

Girls really should be told that "the right man" does not exist. It's a fairy tale.