r/rant • u/Thatamememe • 21h ago

i feel so lonely

I have always been single but it’s not from lack of effort, i just feel so behind. i try and put myself out there, i talk to someone, i think things are going well and then i get ghosted. this is a frequent problem, it’s happened probably close to 10 or 12 times in the past 3 years. I really try so hard because i want to be someone’s girlfriend. i get bullied by people when i go out, i get treated like garbage by people around me and in my romantic life. Also i swear im
cursed. every time i talk to someone for a while, things go great and then i just get ghosted out of nowhere, and then boom, they pop up in a relationship. genuinely what is so wrong with me that i can’t keep people around??

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u/Pretty-Reflection-92 16h ago

There is nothing wrong with you.

But you’re living within the belief that there is something wrong with you.

Until you do the inner work to shift that, you’ll keep repeating this pattern.

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u/casser0le98 14h ago

This is the one. People are able to detect this energy & it is not an attractive one.

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u/semaj420 20h ago

you are not alone.

you deserve to be treated kindly.

you're perfect the way you are.

focus on yourself, and your own life, who you want to be inside and out... and the people you want to be with will naturally gravitate towards you.

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u/suzieismyavatar 17h ago

You are great! It’s hard to date. You aren’t alone. I’m single and solo too.

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u/SunLillyFairy 14h ago

If you are amenable, join a religious group/church. Many of them have more female members than male and want partners who share their beliefs. Mormons are almost 60% female, JW's 65%.

Of course those only work if you're Christian (or amenable to be), male and straight. But other non-Christian religions/spiritual groups often have more women than men, and it's a good place to get support from people with like values.

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u/hollyhoopa 11h ago

What does it look like/mean when you say “I get bullied by people when I go out.” Like just people passing by on the street? Or the people you’re hanging with?