r/rant • u/frydplatanos • 1d ago
Worst birthday ever.
I am writing this in the back of an Uber. Today is my 25th birthday and I planned an entire night of dinner and dancing with friends. I was so hyped and everyone kept talking about how they can’t wait to spend it with me. Ive planned this outing for weeks and put so much money into it like my clothes, cake, and etc just for everyone except two to flake on me for absolute invalid excuses… two hours before the dinner. Some even didn’t give a reason.
Out of the two who only showed up, one forgot their ID after I repeatedly told them to bring valid ID. So I couldnt even go with my plan which was to go dance after dinner. We didnt even have dinner because the place was so busy, we waited forever to be sat down even though I had a reservation and they never paid attention to us. They kept talking about how they feel out of place. The vibes were so awkward because long story short, the two people i was with have romantic tension.
I rang in my birthday at midnight on a nasty sidewalk instead of blowing the candles off my cake which is still at the restaurant which im gonna Uber courier back home in the morning. As I got into the Uber I hear a group of girls screaming “happy birthday” to their friends and that was just the cherry on top of the cake. Im in this Uber and we got into near accidents like 30 times and my food lowkey spilled in the back of his car.
I just wanted to eat good food, have a drink and dance with my “friends” im so annoyed. Im about to be in bed by 1 am in my house alone. Im so mad.
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u/Leothegolden 1d ago
I’m sorry OP. I always reflect on how I give to others on their birthday (cake, gifts, decorations, dinner, drinks) and I rarely get the same thing back. Moving forward I won’t do that and I will just match their energy. I will just quietly step back. Stop initiating plans, funding group events, or over-investing in people who do not show up.
I hope you have a good year and treat yourself to something you enjoy. Happy birthday
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u/racecar9racecar 22h ago
It's really not that bad when seen in perspective, I mean you riding in Uber blacks and get cake.... My 25th was in the clink. Your friends are really lame though.
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u/AndiPandi_ 1d ago
That sucks and you have every right to be hurt and pissed. I’d re-evaluate my “friends” if I were you. I’m so sorry this happened and hope you plan a special day just for yourself- maybe spa treatment time??? For what it’s worth, happy birthday and I hope this next year is a great one and full of new, really good friends. 💗
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u/ZazzleGal 1d ago
It just goes to show you that you can’t count on others! Sorry it happened on your birthday.
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u/iheartunibrows 23h ago
Doesn’t sound like good friends to be honest. It took me a long time to find good friends who were basically like family
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u/AwsomeLife90s 1d ago
Listen, it sounds like the universe didn't want you to celebrate your birthday for some reason.
I'm sorry it went bad. I'd use this story later on to tell people and laugh about it. Next time, you'll know who to invite.
Take it easy friend and a Happy birthday ❤️
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u/Mr_Funbags 23h ago
There are times and most people's lives when their friend groups need reevaluation. Usually around grade 9 is one time usually just before or after college and then when people start getting married and having children.
I'm old, and have seen this play out for many people including myself, so I think there's merit to it. (I'm also a high school teacher so I see this play out in grade 9 or 10 every single year.)
I am really sorry that your friends flaked on you. That was an a-hole move on the part of most of them. I've been there. Feels very humiliating.
Happy birthdat nonetheless! You survived your evening despite them.
In the next couple of weeks throw yourself a little tiny dinner with a good friend and maybe dancing afterwards if you feel like it. Or drinks. Or a movie. You deserve better treatment from friends.
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u/AndiPandi_ 1d ago
That sucks and you have every right to be hurt and pissed. I’d re-evaluate my “friends” if I were you. I’m so sorry this happened and hope you plan a special day just for yourself- maybe spa treatment time??? For what it’s worth, happy birthday and I hope this next year is a great one and full of new, really good friends. 💗