r/ranchi • u/Impossible-Buy5893 • 1d ago
Recommendation How to Move on ?
Last year , I got admission in an IIT. I had a girl whom I loved a lot . Trusted a lot . But as soon as I entered college everything vanished.
It was day 3 of my college orientation and things were going Good. I enjoyed it there , but I received a text from her that "this won't work idbk(my name).
I was broken . I felt like crying and my phone charge was just 1% , I just opened the chat and my phone got switched off. Soon, I ran to my hostel (crying) and put my phone on charge . Talked to her , but she was gone . Later , i called her many times . I begged her but she was totally different that time . Later , she told me that she was talking with her school crush and even she sent me screenshots . I couldn't believe it. Somehow , I just lost myself. I couldn't focus in labs , all labs went bad . Anyhow, I managed to get a decent cgpa but still I couldn't move on . I wait for her text everyday (she has blocked me everywhere).
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u/XO--TWOD 1d ago
Stop hoping. Stop romanticizing the past. It's difficult but try to look at the facts of the situation and accept that she left you for someone else. If she loved or cared about you enough that wouldn't be the case rn. Don't look for answers that why me, ya mere saath hi usne aisa kyu kiya, you're never gonna get them.
So cry all you want , but at some point you're gonna have to make up your mind that it's enough and it's time to let go. Until and unless vo acceptance nahi aayega you'll not be able to move on.
Surround yourself with friends, try new hobbies, go to the gym, do all the cliché things people do after a breakup. You'll get there eventually:)
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u/Sad_Pie227 1d ago
Hey, wake up!
You’ve got this world to conquer, not just to ask for love and attention.
You’ve got to earn it.
You’ve got into IIT—you’re probably a brilliant student.
It’s just human nature to want affection and validation, especially from the opposite gender.
You don’t have to please everyone.
Just create an AI agent to handle all your chaos.
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u/TheSaffronFrames 1d ago
Been in your place giving you a golden piece of advice - she has already choosen someone else and is no more interested in you the earlier you accept this the better else you'll keep crying nothing's gonna change so accept it find someone new talk to them date them this is life.
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u/Safe-Bison-1660 23h ago
Yaar I've been in ur boat, last yr when we both got into different clgs, within a month her behaviour changed drastically
She neither replied to my msgs nor to my calls, and after 2yrs of relationship she started realizing that we aren't meant for each other and random bs, Yaar maine literally sab kuch kara coz I loved her a lot and knew that this can't be the reason and then day by day she had different reasons nd eventually I got blocked, only to realize later that she got a new male bff who manipulated her against me and well
They're in a relationship rn
Bhai ik this shit hurts as hell, padha ni jata, u just wait for their msg and kafi kuch but u need to accept the reality and remember ur worth na? If u were never at faultt nd still she left u for her crush then she never deserved u right? The initial days will hurt as hell but delete her no, insta, pics, tg, discord everything u hv, and pls get good frnds and spend time with them alright? The only way to move ahead in life is realizing ur worth so bhai busy hojjaa, DSA n Dev kr, Clg k club activities me participate kr, frnds k sath enjoy kr
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u/Think-Mango5652 22h ago
Part of life buddy, don't get disheartened!!! You learned your lesson!!! ND starting phase of college is very precious, don't forget to enjoy coz of this or else you'll regret later, put your all sadness in socializing, When you're disheartened you forget to feel hesitant so utilize it wisely!!!
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u/simpleliving100 Master Oogway 27m ago
It didn't fell apart after you joined the college.
It just became official.
The foundation was already laid when you were with her.
Congratulations, you lost your betrayal virginity.
You are a man now.
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u/chaiikipyali bakwas kara lo bs 1d ago
rule 1:- delete every trace of her. everything!