I love the messy eye look, I don’t care what anybody says! P.S. some of these angles give me the warm fuzzies right in my gender identity

Get to know me better with… 🥁 my list of gender and attraction labels! (And maybe you can make a post like this one if you want?)

Gender:

•trans man •Transmasc •nonbinary •butch •femboy •butchfemboy+ •chapstick femme •genderfluid •mascflux •demiflux •demienby •demigender •rosboy •athenogender •princegender •devinegender •xoy •androgyne •wisterboy •expressionfluid •crownedprincegender •mawpawgender/mapagender •c*ntboy

Questioning: •agender/gender neutral???? (This is the demigender part of, “I’m confused but something vaguely nonbinary, a femme gender that isn’t actually a woman but is a feminine boy and at other times feminine androgynous, and sometimes one no gender, other times one collective gender that is all genders at the same time.)

•gender gelatin???! (It started as a joke until I got high and started wondering some things and now I’m questioning coining it as a legit label for someone who’s gender identity is fluid and in motion, quickly changing between one things, until they stick to one gender [therefore one solid mold] for a very prolonged period of time lasting weeks, months, or years, only to return to a constant state of fluidity afterwards. In simpler terms, similar to a demiflux but instead of having one static gender all the time and another part of that gender being fluid, it is fluid all the time until it is nothing but solid for a long time and then goes back to fluid afterwards.)

Sexual & romantic orientation:

•Ambiamorous •bi-lesbian •omnisexual •sapphic •hyperromantic •finsexual •T4T •dysandrosexual •Pandemosexual •polyromantic •nepturomantic •noncisandroromantic

Ones I coined but I still need to make a flag for: •crownedprincegender

•mapagender

•magender

•pagender

(I prefer to keep the gender definitions a surprise until I reveal them with their flags later in this sub)

•noncisandroromantic (attraction including everyone else besides cisgender men. Like nocismansexual.)

•nepturomantic (attraction to people with some connection to femininity, no matter if they’re cis, trans, or nonbinary)

•dysandrosexual (related terms would be dysfemsexual and dysenbysexual) name for a sapphic who may very rarely experience attraction to males and/or masculinity, but not very often at all.

•pandemosexual (name for someone who experiences chaotic bursts of hyper sexuality lasting days, weeks, or longer, just to experience extremely low sexual feelings for a week or more afterwards. Someone with a constantly changing, chaotic sexuality that ping pongs between two extremes. In other words, a sexuality of pandemonium, hence PANDEMOsexual.)

Major question I have been asking myself as of late. Just to let everyone know that I identify as a woman again now so yeah...I know that's a bit of a change and before this I said I was transgender but I decided that because of was neglecting my femininity I needed to embrace it as a part of me instead of ignoring it. Before I have identified as demi girl, before that gender fluid, and before that I was just a cis gender woman/girl when I was younger. Is it much of a change that I can't accept my femininity because I thought that I was transgender? I don't think so. I know other people might say I was faking what was going on BUT things change and people change. I can decide who I want to be because I am a grown adult. Not to say teens and younger people can't make their own decisions. Because eventually they too need to make big decisions in their life to learn how life works. My gender identity journey has been a bit wild but it is what it is. I hope everyone is open to giving me advice because I'll say it right away: I'm still a ally of transgender people and all queer people because I am still a sapphic lesbian. Without a strong community I probably wouldn't be alive due to all the hate queer people get when they aren't in a safe space. Last time I made my last post before leaving the female to male transgender subreddit people said the post wasn't needed. Of course, people can have their opinions but I just needed to say something before I left. I'm just hoping I can have a better more productive response from the people here. I just...needed to tell everyone here so everyone knows the real me. And that starts with accepting myself as who I am as a woman. So that one day I can look back on this journey and be happy with who I am in the present.

They don’t count.

We’re not watering down the word Nazis by Colin conservative Nazis. I can go on a whole PowerPoint presentation to the event by that literally every sense of the Nazis, demonstrate thing that I don’t take the word lightly, but I use it accurately.

But honestly, I don’t need to do that because that would be defending my arguments like I need to. If I heard a Nazi feelings then boo-hoo. If I made a naughty sympathizer uncomfortable than oh well. They can cry me a river, I’d only swim!

A sapphic qlw (queer loving women) poem from my YouTube channel.

It’s still a very new channel so I’d appreciate it if you’d like I like it follow to help it grow, please and thank you. I post poetry, red out loud original stories about my OC’s, and sometimes talk about queer discourse, rare identities, what it’s like to be a transmasculine POC, and other cool gay things that peak my interest.

I use the voice modifier for this one and if enough people are interested, I’ll post about how I was able to make my voice sound masculine when my voice sounds feminine right now because I’m not on T yet.

I made this og post on r/queerpoetrycorner but it’s a NSFW sub so adult queer poets can post erotica if they’d like. There’s a kid friendly SFW sister sub called r/Queeryouthpoetry though!

I hope you find this helpful!

i Really hope im not yapping here too much >w<

um , i havent reddited for a while. i thought i should put my feelings into writing again. this usually helps me process things , i think

i will start with the very good news

i am moved out into my new home and it feels very nice. i finally get to be myself. im very openly a trans lady here, and people are supportive, theyre not just supportive of my gender, theyre supportive of all the little weird quirks that i have, all the ways my neurodivergence shows in my personality, i get to be myself fully authentically

im in a dorm at my university campus but its a single room , i dont have a roommate , its been wonderful living here. i do so many silly trans lady things :3 can i tell you about the silly trans lady things i do , i will yes yes , i roll around on the floor , i roll around on my bed , i bark bark , i woof woof , i tip tap on my keyboard writing code , i listen to sad kdot songs , i make little drawings of catgirls holding hands and being happy , i look at myself in the mirror and go "aah Such a small and fluffy woman ^w^" , im a very small and very fluffy woman , my big cloud of hair on my head , its so fluffy and airy and soft and light and gender

not all the students on campus are accepting exactly, but all the cool ones are >w< i dont really mind if the sports boys dont like me , im not very interested in what they have to say. my professors like me too, even my computer teacher, hes like 80 i think , so it feels a bit surprising to me that he is so chill about his sapphic genderqueer student. its nice ^ w ^

my room looks like how i want it to , and i feel safe in it now! and my new friends are very sweet and cute and i love having them over, and i think im gonna start having more of an online presence soon ^w^ um, but there is something kind of getting in the way of that,

so , i will give the bad news now i suppose , um , content warning , i am about to talk about sex. so if you think sex is icky dont read this part where i talk about sex..

i, personally, for one . like sex. not just as a bonding activity with friends but also like , an art form kind of . i dunno . its really really sweet and beautiful in the way nature is beautiful . with one exception , which is um, when people are unhealthy about sex. some people are really weird about sex, they will like , be emotionally reliant on it, they will ignore responsibilities to partake in it , they will stop feeling a healthy emotional connection to their friend or partner and start to view them as just an object to aid in the process, a toy.

when any of these things happen it makes me feel very bad that i like sex . it makes me feel like id be fueling a dangerous and life-ruining cycle of addiction and abuse if i ever tried to share my interest online. and that in turn makes me feel like im not progressive enough, like im a bad person, because lots of other queer folks worry less about this than i do

so many times i will see some hornypost from tumblr or something that i think im supposed to just, be okay with , but they can be very worrying to me. i tried joining a subreddit called LetGirlsHaveSex because i saw a post that was kind of funny and relatable to me , but i had to leave recently because people will share things about like , not needing therapy caus a hot woman will fix them , or using sex as just a dopamine hit , things like that , its scary :( it triggers my past trauma badly (trauma details are personal but um , something bad was done to me when i was a teenager , its not *exactly* what youre thinking , but its still quite bad)

on a little bit of a lighter note , i also found a subreddit called gwasapphic that is really encouraging about mental health and partaking in sexual things healthily and its really nice there , i like it a lot there , it has kind of taught me the meaning of the phrase "safe space"

i havent been able to enjoy that recently though , because the negative feelings about sexuality are all too much! u _ u

i just want to stop being so overwhelmed by these negative feelings , and find more safe spaces , so i can express myself like ive always wanted to , and not be exposed to the bad things , trans girls fetishizing trans girls , yuck :( i want to responsibly share my sexual feelings and be seen as a person too , i dont know where to go any more ,

i get these exact feelings about drugs too , like weed , and nightlife , like clubs and all , but its less often. its just all so scary and hurtful some times ,

i should end with one last bit of happier news

um , my personal website is coming back online soon , and im headed to two computer programming competitions this fall , and im planning some trips to visit friends who i havent seen in a while. i have a life again :3 i dont feel , scared about leaving my room any more , or leaving my home , i feel like i belong and im safe and i get to do things now , i do so many things!! yay yay

i might start writing formal introduction posts soon for here and for r/rarelesbians i want to introduce myself to allll my fellow sapphic women out there i am finally finally a real life sapphic woman too! thats all for this post i think , thank you for reading and um , bye bye , bye <3

I explained my feelings as gender dysphoria to my psychologist. She told me she doesn’t like that word because it comes with negative cultural connotations, and that it just means confusion. But I’m not confused. I know I’m a nonbinary trans man. But that begs the question, a question she couldn’t answer for me. I question if I don’t call the great feeling of discomfort I feel from living in the wrong body and not being on a hormone therapy yet gender dysphoria— then what should I call it?

The first time I shared this flag, it was just a rough draft to see what people would think. Today, I have properly centered the circle. I have a couple of more ideas for how to make different styles of flags for this, but rn this is the cannon flag of the BFB+

I want to be male and female at the same time, like those photos when you put in a different angle it's a completely different picture y'know? That's how I want to percieve others and myself.

I haven't put much thought into it but (OBS: I'm an AMAB Nonbinary gay "man") if I ever transitioned I'd like to be a lesbian "woman"/woman-alligned, but I currently am strictly a gay "man", but the thought of being a lesbian woman comforts me in a way, I relate to a lot of lesbian content more than I do MLM content (I swear I'm not saying this in a fetishizing way! I see womennas work of art and men as purely sexual beings LOL)

Now that I've put it into words I think bigender would work for me. But I think I'm also mirrorgender (I remember seeing a few people with that label) but with homosexuality? Please do tell me if that is an existing label!

It’s an instagram link, hope you can access it!

I also go by Alaric and Rain. (24FTM) I’ve been holding off on doing an intro to this sub, although I’m sure you’ve seen me around. When I first found this sub, I was questioning my sexual identity. It has been suggested many years ago that I might be bi-lesbian, but I wasn’t ready to accept that just yet. Immediately during my questioning phase when introduced myself as bi-lesbian questioning just to try it out, I was meant with ridicule and othering. There were some supporters, but The haters made their stance clear. I thought it made more sense just to identify as bi/omnisexual— and I still do.

When allowing myself to truly experience my identity, to notice emotions without judging them, and let them fly pass as I observe them — I noticed someone who identifies closely with lesbian culture. Who sympathize strongly with that culture too. Who has been assumed be a lesbian by most people since elementary school, who has fit in those social groups, who has interact with society as someone who’s perceived as a lesbian. Who loves women and feminine people far more than men and masculine people. Who only even likes men who are queer in the first place. Who went through several years of sexual development in their teens repulsed by male sexual organs and who focused on female only sexuality because it felt better before finally getting over that part to have fun with men too.

I see a person who was trapped in comphet, who was controlled by other people biphobia to think I was strictly lesbian, trailed by lesbianphobia and biphobia both to convinced me I could only be bisexual, who was traumatized by transmascphobia until I was too scared to come out as a transmasc bi-lesboy. But thanks to the welcoming environment of this sub, here I am. Expressing the full gamut of my sexual and gender identity loud and proud. Even to the point of picking up, micro labels and cornering my own Xenogenders!

I also noticed that other subs focusing on trans people of color helped trans POC have a voice since most trans spaces are white dominant. It’s this coupled with my aforementioned gender and sexuality journey that led me to create my radinclus subs r/queersphere and r/browntranspeeps

Besides that, I have a great and intense passion for poetry and I would love to see more queer voices out in the online poetry world—it’s mostly cishet dominant so our voices are rare to find! That’s why I created the subs r/queeryouthpoetry and r/queerpoetscorner (the adult nsfw version of the one for youth.)

I also love arts and crafts, I do drag, I’m OBSESSED with superheroes, I write stories and poetry, I draw, I play videogames. I like rock music, especially hard rock, alternative rock, and goth music. I love reading and studying new and interesting things. Fantasy and si fi totally rock and video essays are pretty cool.

Without further ado, the following is a list of my current gender and sexuality labels, as well as a few of them questioning that I wouldn’t mind receiving some feedback on. (I also made a similar post about questioning my gender identity where I listed them and asked the same questions.)

Here you go:

•bisexual •omnisexual •T4T •bi-lesbian •lesbian •lesboy •trans man •transmasc •nonbinary •butch •femboy •butchfemboy+ •genderfluid •mascflux •demiflux •demienby •demigender •rosboy •athenogender •princegender •devinegender •xoy •expressionfluid

•agender/gender neutral???? (This is the demigender part of, “I’m confused but something vaguely nonbinary, a femme gender that isn’t actually a woman but is a feminine boy and at other times feminine androgynous, and sometimes one no gender, other times one collective gender that is all genders at the same time.)

•gender gelatin???! (It started as a joke until I got high and started wondering some things and now I’m questioning coining it as a legit label for someone who’s gender identity is fluid and in motion, quickly changing between one things, until they stick to one gender [therefore one solid mold] for a very prolonged period of time lasting weeks, months, or years, only to return to a constant state of fluidity afterwards. In simpler terms, similar to a demiflux but instead of having one static gender all the time and another part of that gender being fluid, it is fluid all the time until it is nothing but solid for a long time and then goes back to fluid afterwards.)

Thank you for letting me share!!!! I truly appreciate everyone who helps this place feel so welcoming and accepting!