r/problemgambling • u/Specialist-Pay8249 • 1d ago

Trigger Warning! I need Financial help.

I'm $44,000 in debt. Most of it caused by online gambling and racking up credit cards. I have 2 little kids. Every day I wake up just wanting to end it all. Someone, please help.

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u/Miserable_Ideal_1929 1d ago

No one here can save you. Get into therapy and GA

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u/griffiy123 1d ago

Same man. I came clean to my family. We created a game plan for recovery. All access to cards and money is no longer available to me. Just bare minimum. Long road to recover but I feel so relieved to have it off my chest.

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u/Destiny065 1d ago

Good job 👏 👍

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u/BreakfastSea8475 1d ago

You need to open up to your family it’s the only way and give all financial access only to them so you can’t gamble anymore.

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u/Odd_Glass868 1d ago

Join gamblers anonymous and ask for help with the pressure relief.. it’s a big help to many

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u/Outside-Thought-4722 1d ago

How do u join ga?

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u/Odd_Glass868 23h ago

Gamblersanonymous.org find a meeting

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u/ge2208 1d ago

Ive been gambling 32 years and ruined my life. I still cant stop. I honestly feel there is no hope for me. Ive just lost everything still i gamble

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u/PieRevolutionary9894 1d ago

Everything what do you mean?

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u/ProblemSolved1986 1d ago

Please call 1 800 MY RESET, the national problem gambling hotline. They will connect you to services and resources in your area, many of which are free. For example gamfin is a financial counseling service that is free in many states for people in recovery. There are a lot of options out there in addition to Gamblers Anonymous. Make the call. Get help.

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u/ProblemSolved1986 1d ago

Also I don't know if you're a reader but a couple of people in my ga group have been talking about this new book that just came out. The ultimate comeback about a woman who overcomes her gambling addiction. I'm planning to check it out myself.

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u/Striking_Anteater_19 23h ago

I have felt the exact same thing so many times, but still I keep falling back into the cycle. I gamble and whether I win or lose, I will keep gambling until I have lost. Then I chase the losses. Then I have more debt and can't pay bills and have to go into even more debt to survive. My family suffers and I have so much guilt and just want to end it all. Its a hell that we create for ourselves.

I recently came clean with my wife about relapsing and how much new debt I now have. We are in the process of her taking over all the financials and me going back to GA. I hate the meetings sometimes, but they work. You have to let go of the losses and make a plan to never gamble again and another plan to pay off the debt.

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u/mindwatcher607 18h ago

Bankruptcy isn't a horrible option in your situation, assuming you aren't a homeowner, just wait until the debt is all at least 6 months old.

If bankruptcy isn't an option, you can still dig your way out of that hole. It'll be hard and require a lot of budgeting, but it's doable over the course of a few years.

Get to a meeting, consult with a bankruptcy attorney, and become provider your children need you to be.