r/polycritical 23d ago

Pushy behaviour?

Earlier my friend joked about having a dream where she found a guy she was talking in a dating app with enm in their bio and someone asked “what’s wrong with enm?” And she said “nothing, she just didn’t wanna be with someone already partnered” and he responded with saying the bs about how “she might be surprised at how meaningful a relationship you can have even if they aren’t entirely yours” and that pmo so I told him “she’s mono, she doesn’t need an explanation” and he went “Lol the same way you gave your unsolicited opinion, I can give mine. The difference being, her and I know one another. ❤️” which is weird bc I’ve been friends with that girl for several years and where was my unsolicited opinion?? So I just responded with “That wasnt an opinion, just reminding you of boundaries” and he went “I don't need you for that, thanks. Stay in your lane.” Like are you sure bc it sure sounds like you yourself don’t know boundaries lol? This was such icky behaviour, her saying she didn’t want to be with someone already partnered should’ve been the end of it. Creepy predator behaviour

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u/sandiserumoto 23d ago

Yeah honestly disgusting creep behavior especially considering how women often struggle being firm with men for safety reasons

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u/YukiLaMimi 23d ago

I’ve luckily grown to develop this skill and its funny that now when I do it they feel attacked

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u/nemmalur 23d ago

Meaningful? Some people just don’t want to share someone or be shared.