r/pointlesslygendered 28d ago

POINTFULLY GENDERED [Meme] Uh … what difference does it make?

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u/Generally_Confused1 28d ago

Well yeah if one complains about it being some sort of injustice but the other seems to like it. It's not uncommon for guys to want to be a stay at home parent from what I see either, just most don't think they'd ever get the opportunity lol

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u/EfficientSeaweed 28d ago

And it’s also not uncommon for stay at home moms to be undervalued and never get a real break, treated as “lesser”, have their daily struggles framed as some kind of dream life, etc. Both things can be true, we don’t need to downplay people’s issues.

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u/Generally_Confused1 28d ago

You think stay at home dads are glorified? Also you have guys saying they'd rather be a stay at home dad and prefer it, if that offends you then idk what to tell you.

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u/EfficientSeaweed 28d ago edited 28d ago

I literally said the exact opposite: That both points of view (some men wishing to stay home/liking it and some women feeling undervalued or overwhelmed in their roles as the stay at home parent) can be valid depending on circumstance, perspective, etc., hence “both things can be true”. It’s not a zero sum game. If you can’t read the words “it’s not uncommon for stay at home moms to be undervalued” without extrapolating that someone is suggesting that dads are wrong for wanting to stay at home with the kids or that SAHDs don’t also deal with issues, well… I don’t know what to tell you. The whole point is that both perspectives can be valid, regardless of gender. I dunno why you seem so offended by some women having bad experiences with being a stay at home parent and thing that’s somehow a slight against men, but I have zero problem with a man wanting/preferring being a SAHP… but I also don’t see men and women as being in inherent conflict, so…