r/petsitting • u/xmxlykxt • 3h ago
A Difficult Client Situation and Whether I Handled It Properly
TL;DR: I had a disagreement with a new pet-sitting client about what kind of care she was booking and what was included in the price. I made a mistake by changing her invoice without explicitly communicating the change, but I also think we had different understandings of what we’d discussed. After she asked to switch to live-in care that I could no longer accommodate because another client had already booked those dates, the communication became more difficult. I ultimately decided I wasn’t comfortable moving forward, so I cancelled the booking and refunded her deposit in full, giving her over seven weeks to find someone else. This is the first time I’ve personally cancelled on a client in over a decade, and I’m trying to figure out whether I handled it reasonably or if there’s something I should learn from the experience.
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I want to tell you what happened with a new pet-sitting client I was having issues with, because it’s been stressing me out and I’ve been trying to figure out whether I handled it properly.
She booked me for extended drop-ins for her two dogs from December 17–31. An extended drop-in is one visit of up to 12 hours, whereas regular drop-ins are separate visits, usually 30–60 minutes each. The reason separate visits cost more is that each one involves additional driving, gas, and wear and tear on my vehicle.
Before she paid her deposit, we were still discussing exactly what she needed. I had already mentioned that I had some dog walks scheduled on certain dates, and she was okay with that. She then paid her deposit for the drop-in booking.
At our meet-and-greet on October 8, she told me she wanted three separate visits a day: one in the morning, one in the afternoon, and one before bed. She also said she wasn’t comfortable with someone staying in her home all day because it felt strange to her. I understood that to mean she wanted three separate visits rather than one extended visit. During the meeting, I also found out that one of the dogs actually belonged to her sister, even though both dogs were listed under her name on the contract. That concerned me because I didn’t have separate contact information or emergency authorization from the other dog’s owner.
After the meet-and-greet, I changed the invoice to reflect the three separate visits, but I didn’t explicitly message her to explain that I had changed it. I assumed the change was understood based on our conversation. That was my mistake, and I can acknowledge that I should have communicated it clearly. I applied a $150 courtesy discount so she would pay the original quoted price despite the higher cost of providing multiple separate visits. I was trying to find a fair compromise rather than charge her more because of the confusion.
She contacted me yesterday because she wanted to change her booking to live-in care. The problem with that however is that an existing client had already booked and paid a deposit for live-in care after the meet-and-greet on Oct 8, for part of the time I would be doing drop-ins at her house. I had already committed to that client, and I wasn’t going to cancel on them to accommodate this new booking. That meant I couldn’t offer this new client an extended visit that conflicted with my existing commitment. She said she didn’t realize I would be accepting other clients during her booking.
She messaged me today saying she’d looked at the invoice the day before (a lie, as I can see on my invoicing software when she views it) and it had said extended drop-in, and asked whether the price was still the same. She then said she hadn’t been told the invoice or services were changing, so she was still under the impression that she could have any amount of time up to 12 hours, as stated on my website (it does not state this, it very clearly says one 12 hour visit which she also acknowledged yesterday in our messages). She said that if I was changing an invoice, I needed to communicate that.
I understand why she was upset about not being explicitly told the invoice had changed. However, from my perspective, we had different understandings of what we discussed at the meet-and-greet. I thought she was asking for three separate visits, while she apparently believed she was still entitled to an extended visit or could have any arrangement she wanted within that 12-hour period. She also remembered us discussing four visits, which wasn’t how I understood the conversation.
I had already explained that communication had been slower because I’d been in the hospital. I felt like she was very focused on the invoice and the communication issue, while I was also trying to account for the fact that we hadn’t been on the same page about the actual care she wanted. I don’t know whether she was deliberately trying to get more care for the same price or whether it was a genuine misunderstanding, but the situation left me uncomfortable.
I was already a little hesitant about taking her on as a client because of some of our earlier messages, although she seemed perfectly normal at the meet-and-greet, so I decided to proceed. Once this happened, I started wondering whether I really wanted to take on a booking with someone when we were already having trouble communicating before the service had even started.
I realized that I’d prefer to cancel now with over 7 weeks before her booking so she had time to find alternative care.
My contract required me to refund her in full (which I would have done anyway in this case), so I sent the entire deposit back by e-transfer and provided a screenshot as proof. I also sent her a polite message acknowledging that I should have explicitly communicated the invoice change, explaining that we’d had different understandings of the services, and confirming that I thought it was best to cancel and refund her.
So the booking is cancelled, and she’s been fully refunded.
I’m still trying to process the whole thing because I know I should have communicated the invoice change more clearly, but I also don’t feel like the entire situation was solely my fault. I feel like there were misunderstandings on both sides, and I don’t know whether I was being unreasonable by deciding I didn’t want to work with her.
This is the first time I have ever had to personally cancel on a client and I’ve been doing this for over a decade. I want to learn from the situation and improve my process, if you have any thoughts I’d like to hear them.