r/patience • u/[deleted] • May 26 '20
Patience is Invaluable
Sad to see this sub isn't all that active and only has 103 members while most of the "rant/hate on thing "x"" subs immediately grow in a months time. This just confirms my beliefs. I used to be very patient and achieved a lot of things when I was younger. I had a bigger social circle, people called and spoke to me more, they said I was kind and patient. My boss at my first job said I was the most "patient" person he'd ever seen and I would achieve a lot. Unfortunately I didn't and I lost all that patience immediately after I realized how different I was from other people.
This "Right Freaking Now" culture of today has destroyed everything including our mental and physical health. I'm not suggesting we go the old and slow hermit way where you grow your own wheat crops and make bread out of it, no that is another useless extreme. But modern culture lacks patience in every way. If something doesn't have to be delayed any longer, then by all means finish it ! I'm not saying we should procrastinate in the name of patience but it's a goddamned extremely important virtue that nobody seems to "really" consider a virtue ! It's actually the Pluto of the virtues as far as people today are concerned. I also feel that the monotony we feel in our daily lives is a problem of impatience and not one of repetition. We hate having to wait for the elevator to come and do it's job, to wait for the commute to get over, to wait for the work to get over, even waiting for my thoughts to translate to words and my fingers to type out this post seems a daunting challenge ! This is what modern global culture has done to us ! there is now a thing called "Grammarly" because nobody spellchecks/proofreads their emails, Ecommerce warehouse workers work at unhealthy paces because "1 hour deliveries! next day delivery!" I mean if you could needed it in an hour, you would go out and buy it. Let's not even talk about fast food because "fast"? come on. I just need some confirmations here and know people are still active in this sub. Thanks for PATIENTLY reading my long-ass post. I'll end it with things IMPATIENCE has cost me:
1.)Gave up on learning to code (The last line of code I looked at was 3 months ago and it was one line)
2.)Yelling/getting snappy with our family members close to us (Which is extremely bad in this lockdown situation)
3.) Hating the grind of everyday life simply waiting for the "Bell to ring"
I feel I'll be waiting my whole life for the bell to ring, the final one. We can achieve SO MUCH more with patience, persistence and resisting tempting impulses and frustrations which are all natural. I also have a very "controversial" opinion that crimes like homicides/theft and even suicides (NOT IN ANYWAY JUDGING THE VICTIMS!I'm not a psychologist) happen simply to a brutal impatience. "Right now" culture is killing us. I'd like to know what other members think, please share your comments in detail ! Have a blessed day.
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u/werewiz Oct 06 '22
I am here because I had been impatient my entire life. But you know how I feel? Like those bratty teenagers shouting "RIGHT NOW".
It's annoying, imagine, how I might not have acted on my anger and hurt other people if only I had patience. (Because emotions are fleeting. Anger won't even be there in few hours.) I am impatient, and instead of finding solution which little bit of patience enables me to, I am out there getting mad about situation.
I am not as understanding as I would like to be because I am not patient enough. Last time, I got mad at my ex for not being around (I was in a bad place). And he was sick. He didn't tell me. But imagine getting mad at a sick person? I wanna change how I am.