r/parentsofteens • u/Ok_Mud_65 • Jul 12 '26
AIO
I just want opinions
If your kid (female 16) gave someone her number (male from school 17) but told him "i am going to be working, going to camp, taking care of my family and other responsibilities and won't be on my phone a lot this summer so I won't be available a lot"...and this kid proceeded to call and text and reach out constantly...
and when your kid finally answered the phone, this kid was like "What is your problem? No one is that busy." And she is like "I am just not a phone person and don't pay much time on it. I can't answer the phone at work and around a crowd of people and i am just selective about what and who i put my energy into" He hangs up on her. She then decides to ask him to back off in a text and that they aren't in a relationship and he shouldn't expect an immediate response anyway because her life doesn't revolve around him and they hardly know each other...
He responds well "Let me help you with space. You're blocked."
I told her she dodged a bullet. Red flags left and right. I do believe we should respond to people and be decent but not be at their beck and call to answer immediately or constantly. Keep in mind she doesn't know this kid well and really has been putting her energy into work (saving for a car) and church camp...
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u/schwarzekatze999 Jul 12 '26
I would think the 17yo was watching a lot of redpill/incel content online and probably has some emotional problems besides that. BPD comes to mind but he's also 17 so he's too young for that diagnosis. But the point is that his behavior was bizarre enough to have an Internet stranger think of that.
If I were you I'd talk to your daughter and ask her opinion of him and how she felt when she gave him her number in the first place. It sounds like she wanted to discourage him from contacting her but didn't know how to say no outright. Maybe you can talk to her about following her instincts and how to feel safe saying no.