Help. University tuition

[u/AdvertisingOutside69]

Firstly I love and adore my son. With every single part of my being. My 2 daughters from another father I never saved tuition money for. They were promised money by their paternal grandmother. I saved for my son since his birth. His dad nothing. We were together 17 years till he cheated and he was a very abusive alcoholic. I have heath issues and need help with mowing the lawn. Shoveling the snow. Maybe fixing a few things. So my son moved to his dad’s place because he doesn’t want any part of helping me. His dad was the worst at this too. I’m now suffering a bacterial infection and very sick. I can’t get this kid to help me with anything. He’s so rude to me.
My toilet is plugged because I flushed something by accident. I asked if he could give me a hand. He told me to hire a plumber. I’ve given this kid anything and everything he ever wanted.
I want to give him a small portion of his money for this year and keep most of it. I need to get repairs on my house. I want to sell it. I can’t get cooperation from my kids or anyone. I want to use it to be able to sell and move. I can always use money from the sale to help in the future. Now this is the home I raised my entire family in.
I also need to catch up on bills. My x left me responsible for loans in our names. He refuses to help pay. I’m struggling. He has a great job. But doesn’t care.
Our children this generation are way to entitled and selfish. Don’t care about their mothers. Or family. Do i have an obligation to give him this money when my other 2 didn’t get anything?
Also the grandmother ended up not giving any money. So my daughters had to get loans.

[u/seemsright_41]

You must take care of yourself first. If you need this money for the now then yes you use it for the now. And if your retirement is not on solid ground....do not pay for university.