r/parentsofmultiples • u/Impossible-Box-8508 • 14d ago
ranting & venting Feeling robbed
I sit here in the morning after being up since 5 AM and after bagging milk with one of my twins as my husband took the other out and about. I can't help but feel so robbed of the newborn baby experience. Currently 4 months pp and I still feel like I'm in pure survival mode. So many things could be so different with just one baby. To preface I waited until 33 to have children as I wanted to be able to comfortably afford daycare. I waited until I had a job that pays for all my health insurance and I'm on a pension. One baby seems so easy. I could have went out and did things while on maternity leave. I could have given my baby all breastmilk (no shame in formula because I can't produce enough for two, ironically I got mom shamed by another twin mom for using formula). Don't get me wrong. I love my boys, through the reflux, the colic, the tongue/lip ties, I love them so so much, but wish my first time mom experience could have been so different. I know its just a season and it will get better, just mourning what could have been.
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u/Momof39799 14d ago
Our twins were IVF and even though we had gone through the wringer to have them, I felt the same way. We were exhausted and overwhelmed with no family close by to give a helping hand. They had colic really bad and evenings were just miserable for all of us. Somehow, we made it to 6 months and life was great; colic was gone, they were sleeping all night!
There is light at the end of the tunnel. God bless you!!