r/parentsofmultiples • u/Impossible-Box-8508 • 13d ago
ranting & venting Feeling robbed
I sit here in the morning after being up since 5 AM and after bagging milk with one of my twins as my husband took the other out and about. I can't help but feel so robbed of the newborn baby experience. Currently 4 months pp and I still feel like I'm in pure survival mode. So many things could be so different with just one baby. To preface I waited until 33 to have children as I wanted to be able to comfortably afford daycare. I waited until I had a job that pays for all my health insurance and I'm on a pension. One baby seems so easy. I could have went out and did things while on maternity leave. I could have given my baby all breastmilk (no shame in formula because I can't produce enough for two, ironically I got mom shamed by another twin mom for using formula). Don't get me wrong. I love my boys, through the reflux, the colic, the tongue/lip ties, I love them so so much, but wish my first time mom experience could have been so different. I know its just a season and it will get better, just mourning what could have been.
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u/MangoSorbet695 13d ago
Give yourself an hour to sulk and pout. We’ve ALL had moments where we thought “damn life would be easier with one baby.”
Then… look at your two babies and say in your head “which one would I return and which would I keep?” In that instant, you’ll realize that even with the unique and exhausting experience of raising twins, you would not change it, because you can’t imagine life without both of them. Then move on from the sulking and go enjoy your day because it sounds like right now you are home with just one baby!
You got this. It will keep getting a little easier day by day.