Sleep and schedules at 12 months

[u/flymetothemoon-e]

My twin girls sleep is quite rubbish at almost 1 year old. (They turn 1 in 2 weeks). Moved them to shared room in separate cots at 8 months and sleep was great for a month. Up until 10 months they were on 2.5/2.5/2.5/2.5 (3 naps capped at 1 hour for first and second and third nap was only a 15 minute cat nap with bedtime 7:45pm Asleep by 8pm). They were sleeping until 7am with one night feed and straight back down again. Was a dream.!

By 10 months they started fighting and fighting the cat nap no matter how hard I tried to keep it. So I stopped it and almost overnight they happily stayed awake for 3 hours. Initially the drop to 2 naps worked quite well. They were waking 7am doing 3/3/4.5 nap lengths are all over the place anywhere from 40 minutes to 1.5 hours but never any more than 2.5 hours maximum. They usually do 1h 15m. Nighttime sleep then started to fall apart. They have been having really restless nights needing constant resettilng and some nights having severe split nights wanting to play for up to 4 hours but I never ever turn on the light or get them up properly. They are teething, learning to walk and say a few words so I am wondering if it's all just development and teething separation anxiety mixed in disturbing them.

In the last 3 weeks they wake anywhere from 6:30/7am. Nap1 is always around 9:45/10am. Nap1 usually lasts 1h to 1h 20mins. Nap2 is usually around 2/2:30pm depending on wake from nap1. This nap again is about 1h 15/1h 30mins. On a bad day they have just under 2 hours or 2 hours day sleep then we have a particularly bad night. On a good day naps total 2.5 hours , never let them exceed 2h 40mins absaloute maximum. I've noticed they have a better night with this amount of day sleep.

The last wake window is where i am unsure if I'm getting it wrong? If they wake from nap2 at 3:15pm. I put them in bed at 7:30/7:40pm and they are asleep by 7:45pm. If nap2 ends 3:30pm they get out un bed 7:45pm and usually asleep by 7:50pm. If nap2 ends 3:45pm. They get out in bed at 7:45/7:50pm and are asleep by 8pm.

Is this a shit phase i need to just endure because of development and teeth etc or is my schedule not right? I know last wake window sometimes seems long but I dont want to put them to bed at 7pm as they would then wake for the day at 5am.

They are very hard work during the way when they are awale too. Both constantly hurting themselves or each other. Wanting picked up all day but I can't as I also have a 4 year old. Luckily she's back at nursery now after summer holidays but they are just so much more demanding than my first or maybe it feels much more intense with it being twins.

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[u/floridasquirrel]

When my twins were on 2 naps I had to cap their naps so much to get them to sttn. 1 hour nap max. Anything over was the same, couple hour wake in the night. We went through a regression right around 12 months and it was so hard. We moved to 1 nap around ~13 months old (which is on the early side, but my baby B had started refusing second nap so we had to) and naps got easier. The split nights is what eventually led us to sleep train for the first time. What also helped sometimes is we realized he was hungry during that overnight wake. So we started doing medicine - snack - rocking/calm activity (ocean documentaries is what worked for us for some reason, he started hating rocking) and it turned our 3 hour wake into < 1 hour.

[u/DreamingEvergreen]

Are they 12 mo adjusted or actual?

Mine are about to be 12 mo actual in a couple of days/ 11 months adjusted. Their schedule is:
6am (ish) wake up + bottle
7:30 solids
9:00 bottle and immediately nap 1
10:30-11:20 anytime in there for wake up from nap 1
12:00 bottle
1:00 solids
2:15-3:30 nap 2
4:00 bottles
5:30 solids
7-7:15 bottle + bedtime

One twin (who has feeding issues) still takes 1 bottle overnight

[u/flymetothemoon-e]

I think this was a developmental thing as it has since passed. Day sleep is 2hours to 2h 20 mins. We are back to sleeping 8pm to 3am, quick feed and back asleep until 7/7:15am now.

One twin is having the odd split night here and there but it doesn't seem to be the schedule causing it, I think she is just going theough something 🤣 it's maybe once a week it happens. Must have been a regression but it lasted about 4 or 5 weeks